Another system I find useful is Benjamin Franklin's weekly virtue practice. I think virtues need to be cultivated. You can't say you want to be a good person, then just expect that it will come naturally to you. If you want to hit a sales target, you work everyday to reach that.  If you want to become a better person, you have to work on it everyday. You have to work to cultivate it. E-mails welcome at [email protected]