Thriving in Fatherhood

#11 Fatherhood as an Initiation with Trevor Spring

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Trevor is a mentor for young men and a men’s coach.  He specializes in embodied practice and believes with conviction that when we learn to make ourselves available to be truly felt and seen by other men, great personal unfolding can happen.

After an 18 year career as a holistic fitness coach for individuals, companies and athletic teams, Trevor met a personal fork in the road as he became a husband, father and gym owner.   Many threads of manhood converged and on one level things were “just as they should be”...on another they were tearing at the seams.  After several years of relative inner crisis and struggle Trevor found men’s circle work, developed skills, tools, perspectives and relationships as the balm to his own soul ache and need for meaning.

It’s these same threads that Trevor uses to help men, young and old, to reweave their personal stories together in circles and as clients.  Trevor is the Oahu Director for Boys to Men Mentoring Hawaii and the Director for the Sacred Sonz Youth Program.  He also has served as a Pillar facilitator for the Sacred Sons Movement.  He works virtually with men of all ages from around the world as they hit their personal thresholds and find meaning in their own chaos and beauty.

It is clear to Trevor that he would absolutely not be who he is now without the firm wisdom of his partner Elisa and his beautiful daughters, step kids and the others who have held him over the years.  From New Jersey originally, he lives happily on the island of Oahu, Hawaii.

In this episode we discuss:

  • Trevor’s transition into fatherhood by supporting his partner through 2 homebirths.
  • How he learnt (through many challenging experiences) to let go of control and to function within the family system.
  • The process of honouring his partner's transformation and learning to respond to her wisdom and guidance, while maintaining connection with his own internal compass.
  • The single most important thing that allowed Trevor to transition from the “washing machine” of transformation into a much more grounded, healthy and centred space.
  • The importance of untangling co-dependency within our relationships and family unit.

    • CONNECT WITH TREVOR:

    WEB: www.trevorspring.com

    Instagram: @wild_and_wise

    CONNECT WITH US:

    Join a group of like-minded and like-hearted men in the PFP Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1658359171033082

    Connect with us on instagram:

    Present Father Project: https://www.instagram.com/presentfatherproject/

    Tully O'Connor: https://www.instagram.com/tullyoconnor/

    Show notes

    • Transition to fatherhood - 7;30
    • Supporting changes in her 16;50
    • Becoming the man you want to be 20
    • Sharpening the sword 31;25
    • Codependency 32
    • What to prioritise 39;50
    • What does it mean to be a present father? 44:47
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