Gentle Power

11. How to negotiate a raise and Chainsmokers show recap


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We recorded this week’s show in the gorgeous GoSpread.ai podcast space in San Francisco – thank you, team! (Yes, we instantly wanted to crank out a dozen episodes in those vibes.)


Here’s what we covered:

  • Negotiation behind-the-scenes of a dream weekend: Alex recently performed an opening DJ set at The Chainsmokers show (nearly 10K attendees!) in San Francisco—LED screens, crowd-surfing friends, and even a robot DJ trying to steal the show. But getting there wasn’t straightforward: he was already offered to open for another major artist the same weekend, and chasing the Chainsmokers slot meant taking a risk. We break down how our “maximize, don’t satisfy” mantra guided the decision—and how the whole experience became a real-life negotiation, balancing opportunity with long-term relationships.
  • Promotions vs. raises vs. brand-new offers:
    • Why companies usually put a cap on your raise by leveraging status-quo bias.
    • The hidden leverage in new job offers—and how sharing salary history undermines it.
    • Long game vs. quick win: why asking for a raise is a months-long campaign, not a one-email sprint.
    • Tactful transparency: what to say (and not say) if you’re courting external roles while staying on good terms internally.
  • Action homework: Answer a recruiter DM this week—even if you love your job—to test your market value.


Huge gratitude to GoSpread.ai for the beautiful set-up and post-production magic. If you’re in SF and need a turnkey podcast studio, reach out to them at [email protected].


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