Kids: to have or not to have? 🤔 That is the question. 

We're reaching that age (mid 20s, to 30s) where we're starting to think about things like marriage and maybe starting a family... 👪👶🍼  

As we look around us, our friends are getting engaged, married or already having children. 

Will I be a good parent? Do parents even have time to themselves, let alone find time to practice meditation? And what is it that makes us want to have children?    

Tune in for this discussion between Khema (@khema.1), Nalanda (@nalanda.jakjan) and our very special guest/ friend/ older 'sister', Narissa (@narissa.jd) 💖  

Timestamps:  

(02:05) - Do you want kids?  

(06:51) - Is it just a ‘biological clock’ ticking in?   

(08:05) - Can you still prioritise your practice if you have a kid?   

(11:04) - Developing unconditional love   

(13:21) - Reasons why people want kids   

(15:14) - How people react when you say “I don’t want kids”   

(18:28) - Having kids ‘as investment’   

(22:00) - Considering our partners in the decision   

(24:35) - Pressure from parents to have kids   

(27:26) - Having children to ‘improve the world’   

(29:32) - The Story of Dipa Ma   

(32:23) - Giving human birth as a gift   

(34:10) - “I would kill for my child” - is that unconditional love?   

(37:18) - Trauma, healing, attachment theory, responsibilities   

(40:57) - Just do your best <3  

References:  

Karaniya Metta Sutta  

Dependent Origination  

Indian couple sue only son for not giving them grandchildren  

Dipa Ma – Mother, grandmother, yogi | Priyavajra  

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This episode was recorded in 2022.    

For any words said negligently or that may have caused offence, we ask the listener’s forgiveness and take full responsibility.

Music: 'Storybook' by Lukrembo⁠https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tV2TzLUxZ3k⁠License: Creative Commons Attribution 3.0