Just because someone is a traumatized individual doesn’t mean they are a defective partner, and I want to normalize partners coming to the table with varying levels of ability to deal with internal conflict and relational conflict. We don’t all live in our adult bodies 100% of the time, and rather than criticize and ostracize our partners for going to a place that, frankly, most of us go, some percentage of the time (at some point or another), we can solidify our connection to them, create safety, and help pull them into security so that in the near future they can show up more in their adult bodies as we have exemplified it is safe to breakdown.