Midlife AF Podcast

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This week I dive deep into the concept of "flow over force" when it comes to changing habits, particularly around alcohol use.

I share my approach that moves away from shame-based, punitive methods and instead focuses on understanding our triggers, building self-compassion, and creating safety within ourselves.

Drawing from my experience as a neurodivergent mum, I explore how traditional recovery models often fail and introduce my "third way" method of approaching behavioural change.

Key Takeaways:

  • Punitive and shame-based approaches to habit change don't work, especially for neurodivergent individuals and those with trauma
  • Alcohol is often a coping mechanism that helps people feel safe or escape difficult emotions
  • Neurodivergent parents, particularly mothers, face unique challenges that can lead to using alcohol as a way to find space and relief
  • True change comes from understanding your triggers and learning to be compassionate with yourself
  • The goal is not to "fight" against a behaviour, but to understand why you're using it and create alternative ways to meet those needs
  • Interceptive awareness and learning to recognise and sit with emotions is crucial for sustainable change
  • My 30-day Aussie Alcohol Experiment offers a supportive, non-judgmental approach to exploring your relationship with alcohol

    • Episode links & Resources

    • Learn more about Emma Gilmour at: www.hoperisingcoaching.com
    • Follow Emma Gilmour on insta @hoperisingcoaching

      • My Upcoming Coached Events & Programs:

          • Join The GREAT Aussie Alcohol Experiment - LIVE June 2025 here: https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/the_great_aussie_alcohol_experiment

          • Join Emma's VIP ELITE experience here: https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/offers/k7AXMNPG 
          • Join Emma's Be The Lighthouse membership here: https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/bethelighthouse 
          • Get Emma's Visualisation audio download at https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/northstarvisualisation 
          • Emma's Awareness worksheets for people wanting to prepare prior to taking a break from drinking or reduce their drinking by being more mindful about what and why they drink https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/awareness-worksheets-opt-in 
          • Emma's 5 Day Alcohol Reset for people looking to take a quick reset https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/fivedayreset 
          • Join The Self-Paced Great Aussie Alcohol Experiment at https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/aae 

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            Midlife AF PodcastBy Emma Gilmour