Midlife AF Podcast

#113 Not That Bad But Bad Enough

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In this episode, I share my personal journey with alcohol: how I navigated the confusing space between “not that bad” and “bad enough.” I open up about the subtle red flags that accumulated over time, the impact my drinking had on my family, and the pivotal moments that led me to question my relationship with alcohol. I talk about the challenges of letting go of an identity built around drinking, the power of self-compassion, and the freedom I discovered on the other side.

This conversation is for anyone quietly wondering if something needs to shift, and I hope my story offers both comfort and inspiration.

Key Takeaways:

  • I never hit a dramatic “rock bottom,” but a series of small red flags made me realize my drinking was “bad enough” for me.
  • My children’s reactions to my drinking were wake-up calls that I couldn’t ignore, even if I tried to minimise them at first.
  • Leaving a high-pressure job and facing my own mental health struggles made me more aware of how I used alcohol to cope.
  • I learned that self-compassion is essential for lasting change, beating myself up never worked.
  • Education was empowering: understanding how alcohol affects the brain and body helped me shift my mindset.
  • Letting go of my “fun wine-lover” identity was hard, but it ultimately brought me relief and a sense of freedom.
  • Taking a year off alcohol gave me the space to rebuild trust in myself and discover who I am beyond drinking.
  • My story isn’t about labels or shame, it’s about listening to your own signals and making changes that feel right for you.

    • This conversation is about breaking silence, normalising challenging experiences, and creating supportive spaces for neurodivergent families.

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