Midlife AF Podcast

#115 Moderation or AF

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In this episode, I dive deep into the question I hear most often: “Can I just drink like a normal person?”

I share my own journey with alcohol, the challenges of moderation, and why so many of us are drawn to the idea of having “just two glasses of wine.”

We’ll explore the powerful influence of the alcohol industry, the real risks of drinking, and why the desire to moderate is often rooted in deeper emotional needs. I’ll also discuss my unique, non-fear-based approach to changing your relationship with alcohol, and why true transformation is about unmasking and self-acceptance-not just willpower.

If you’ve ever wondered why moderation feels so hard, or if you’re ready to look beneath the surface of your drinking habits, this episode is for you.

Episode Takeaways:

  • Most people who work with me want to “drink like normal people”, but moderation is much harder than it seems.
  • The alcohol industry and societal norms have convinced us that being able to drink moderately is a sign of being acceptable and in control.
  • There is no truly safe amount of alcohol; even small amounts increase health risks, especially for women.
  • The desire to moderate is often about wanting to fit in, avoid rejection, and mask deeper emotional pain.
  • My approach is not fear-based; it’s about understanding your relationship with alcohol and making choices that feel right for you in the moment.
  • Moderation requires constant vigilance and self-control, which can be exhausting and unsustainable for many.
  • True change comes from addressing the root causes of why we drink—not just the behavior itself.
  • Self-acceptance and unmasking are at the heart of my coaching; it’s about learning to love yourself as you are, not fixing yourself to fit an ideal.
  • If you’re feeling stuck, know that it’s a hopeful sign of change, awareness is the first step.

    • Episode links & Resources

    • Download your copy of “Five Important Things You Need to Know About 'Normal' Drinking” to uncover the 5 key insights into why it feels so hard to stick to just one or two glasses of wine, and learn how to use science and awareness to transform those persistent cravings into a source of power, confidence, and control over your wine habits. Click here: https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/drink-like-normal-people

    • Click here to book an initial consult with me https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=20808150&appointmentType=43677625 
    • Click here for a 15 minute Free inquiry call to for my Be The Lighthouse Membership https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=20808150&appointmentType=22037671
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      Midlife AF PodcastBy Emma Gilmour