The Create Your Day Podcast

118. Why Asking for Help Feels Impossible for Women


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When was the last time you asked for help, and actually let someone give it to you? Not the "can you give my kid a ride" kind. The real kind, where you had to admit you couldn't do something alone.

If you're a woman entrepreneur who's built something meaningful but finds yourself drowning in tasks that don't need you, this episode is going to feel like a conversation with a friend who gets it.

Jenn Cody dives into the real reasons asking for help feels impossible for so many women business owners, and spoiler alert, it's not about being a control freak. It's about identity, systems (or lack thereof), and the stories we've been telling ourselves since childhood about what it means to be capable.

Whether you're running a six-figure business or just starting out, this episode will help you understand why "I'll just do it myself" is costing you more than you realize—and what to do about it.


What You'll Learn in This Episode

The Competence Trap: How being praised for "handling it all" as a child becomes a prison as a business owner—and why the most successful entrepreneurs actually ask for help constantly

The Invisible Load Problem: Why delegation feels impossible when everything lives in your head (hint: you can't hand off chaos)

Control vs. Trust: What "they won't do it right" is really code for—and how to create the clarity that makes handoff actually possible

The Identity Piece: Why releasing the "person who holds it all together" role feels like losing yourself—even when it's the very thing holding you back

The Hidden Costs: How refusing help affects your relationships, your team's growth, your business value, and your nervous system (which, by the way, is contagious)

The 80% Rule: A simple reframe that makes letting go feel less terrifying—and why "good enough" done by someone else often beats perfect done by you


This Episode Is For You If...

You've caught yourself thinking "it's just faster if I do it" more times than you can count. You feel guilty asking for help even when you're drowning. You've built something successful but can't seem to step away from the day-to-day. You're exhausted but can't figure out how to change. You want to delegate but genuinely don't know where to start. You're a woman entrepreneur who's tired of being everyone's emergency contact.


Thanks for listening!

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The Create Your Day PodcastBy Jenn Cody | Productivity & Systems for Entrepreneurs