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#12 Easy to Anger Parents and People Pleasers

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Episode #12 – Is It Normal to Become a People-Pleaser After Growing Up with an Angry Parent?

Introduction
Welcome back to Normal but Not! I’m Krystal Centinello, your trauma-informed boundaries and empowerment coach, helping recovering people-pleasers like you step into your power and authenticity.

If you’ve ever spent your childhood walking on eggshells around a short-tempered parent, trying to keep the peace and avoid conflict, this episode is for you. We’ll unpack the connection between growing up with an angry parent and becoming a people-pleaser as an adult. I’ll share personal stories, research insights, and actionable steps to help you reclaim your voice and stop prioritizing others at the expense of yourself.

And stick around until the end—I’ll tell you about my upcoming workshop, Trauma to Triumph: Setting Boundaries that Transform in 1 Hour, happening on January 25th!

What You'll Learn in This Episode

  1. How living with a high-temper parent leads to people-pleasing behavior.
  2. Why "walking on eggshells" becomes second nature and its long-term impact on relationships.
  3. Lessons from Liane Moriarty’s Apples Never Fall and how fiction mirrors real life.
  4. Practical steps to break free from the cycle of hypervigilance and overgiving.

    5. Highlights

    • Walking on Eggshells: Learn how regulating a parent’s emotions instead of your own as a child creates unhealthy habits in adulthood.
    • Attachment Styles: Discover how anxious attachment develops when a parent is unpredictable or critical.
    • Lessons from Fiction: Explore how the Delaney siblings in Apples Never Fall adapted to their father’s temper—and how their strategies might reflect your own.
    • Breaking the Cycle: Actionable tools to identify family patterns, reclaim your voice, set boundaries, and challenge the fear of conflict.

      • Resources Mentioned in This Episode

      • Dr. Nicole LaPera’s insights on hypervigilance.
      • Toxic Parents by Dr. Susan Forward.
      • Apples Never Fall by Liane Moriarty.

        • Take the Next Step
        🎉 Ready to stop people-pleasing and set boundaries with confidence? Join my workshop Trauma to Triumph: Setting Boundaries that Transform in 1 Hour on January 25th. Learn how to say no without guilt and yes to yourself. Visit my website or follow me on Instagram @completecoachingwithkrystal for all the details.

        Stay Connected

        • Take my free quiz: Are You a People-Pleaser?
        • Follow me on Instagram: @completecoachingwithkrystal
        • Explore more tools for reclaiming your power: Complete Coaching with Krystal

          • Next Week’s Episode
          Join me next week for Episode #13: Is It Normal to Feel Uncomfortable Around Straightforward People? If direct communication makes you squirm, we’ll explore why that might be—and how to navigate it.

          Thank you for tuning in to Normal but Not! If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, rate, and review. Share it with someone who needs to hear this message. Remember, you don’t have to walk on eggshells anymore. You’ve got this!

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          Normal but NotBy Krystal Centinello