“I didn’t need to learn how to make friends. I needed to learn how to stop hiding from them.” - Bryn Daylor

In this episode of the SEEN podcast, Bryn gets raw about the messy truth of female friendship — the wounding we’ve caused and carried, and how most of us learned to be likeable instead of known. From writing a brutal breakup letter to a friend in elementary school to finally collapsing at her best friend’s doorstep, she shares the story of what it took to stop performing and start letting women actually see her.

Takeaways

- How most of us have been both the perpetrator and victim in female friendships, creating walls that keep women from really seeing us

- How prioritizing being liked over being known keeps us performing strength instead of experiencing real intimacy

- Why real female friendship isn’t about finding perfect women, but becoming someone who lets women in

- The difference between trauma dumping and authentic vulnerability

- A question to sit with: is there a woman in your life right now who is trying to see you — and you keep showing her the curated version?

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