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Meltdowns are not a sign your child is being disrespectful—they’re a sign they’re overwhelmed, stuck, or trying to communicate something they don’t yet have the words for. In today’s episode, we’re focusing on how to meet your child where they are in the middle of an emotional outburst, and what to do (and not do) to help them feel safe, seen, and supported.

You’ll learn how your own nervous system impacts your response, why some kids shut down completely, and what’s actually happening in their brains when they “lose it.” You’ll also get ideas you can try today—even if your child refuses every tool you’ve learned.

💡 Key Takeaways

• You can’t teach during a meltdown—the moment is for safety and regulation, not lessons.
• How your own stress animal influences your response—and what to do if you're triggered too.
• Why some kids go silent or “freeze” in the middle of a meltdown, and how to support them without pushing.
• Co-regulation doesn't always look like calming your child down—sometimes it means just being a calm presence beside them.
• Strategies like turning on a calming show or offering stillness aren’t “giving in”—they’re resetting the nervous system.

🕰️ Episode Highlights with Timestamps

• [03:20] What’s really happening in your child’s nervous system during a meltdown—and why logic doesn’t work at that moment.
• [06:12] The difference between a tantrum and a meltdown—and why assuming your child is “in control” can make things worse.
• [09:05] What to do if your child shuts down or goes silent—and why stillness doesn’t mean they’re fine.
• [13:40] How your own stress response shows up in these moments—and how to ground yourself first, even if it’s just one breath.
• [17:55] The one thing that makes co-regulation effective—and why trying to “fix” the meltdown too soon backfires.
• [21:30] Tools that don’t require your child to engage—like a calming show or sitting in quiet together—that reset their nervous system without adding pressure.
• [25:10] Why your child may reject every tool in the moment—and how to stop taking that personally.
• [29:00] A reminder that meltdowns are built up over time—and your response today is one step in a longer journey of safety and trust.

🔗 Resources Mentioned

• “Stress Animals” Framework (Dolphin, Shark, Turtle, Clownfish)  Episode 110 https://andiclark.com/podcast/

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