This is not the house I would have chosen to be my forever home, but over the years I have come to terms with us staying here - but how to reconcile with the dissatisfaction of this home not being exactly what I want. 

 

Acknowledging our home dissatisfaction

Recognizing that deep desire to create a space that FEELS like home

Addressing the longing we have to change our homes

How we handle our dissatisfaction

 

Working with a partner to build a home together

Having different ideas on what a home should be

Looking for the ways we both want to create a great place 

Owning where we think the grass is greener

 

Are we entitled when it comes to having an upgraded/ideal home?

Addressing the concept of what is 'normal' for how our homes should look

Getting overwhelmed to just 'get there already'

Asking about what we want, why we want it 

Can we consider the costs of having this 'ideal' home

 

Appreciating the home you have

The one question that helped me see the resent I was looking at my home with 

Looking at my space with appreciation over the days/weeks/months and the things that I have put on my list that I didn't expect

Old decks, small closets, dated kitchens, lack of storage cul-de-sacs

 

Why do we want to change our home?

We think when our home is 'ideal' then we can feel different

Seeing how you don't have to wait for the perfect home in order to feel that

Getting stuck in the either/or mentality

 

Stop waiting for the perfect home 

Your home should be a place that reflects YOU and is a space you love to be and nobody else will do this work for you 

Do the work of removing what you don't want in your home and letting the things you love shine and be used

Know what you LOVE and focus on those things more than the latest trends

Make a point to USE your space for the way you want your home to be used (gather, create, make, relax)

Creating spaces you use and enjoy

 

Loving your home and wishing it were different

This is not an either/or situation,  hold space for both of these

 

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Mentioned:

Love The House Your Are In by Page Rein

No Demo Reno on HGTV

Table Topics Question cards to start dinner conversation 

How to Hygge When You Are a Busy Mom (Episode 75)

Join the Facebook Simple on Purpose Community

Be the mom you are (blog post)

 

 

Simple Pleasure of the week:

Warm blankets out of the dryer. 

 

Full transcript

 

Hey friends it's Shawna, your nerdy girlfriend life coach from simple and purpose.ca Welcome to the simple on purpose podcast. For those of you who are new welcome. I am Shawna, I am a mom of three kids. I'm a trained life coach, a retired health inspector and your nerdy girlfriend, I am here to talk to you each week about the things that we moms we women face in our lives. And how do we approach the different aspects of our lives by first reducing all of the distractions, the noise, whether it's in the form of busyness, comparison clutter, so we want to simplify these areas of our life. And we want to get clear on what we want here, how to be purposeful and intentional in each of the areas of our life. So welcome to the podcast. For the past few episodes, we've been talking about emotional intelligence. So I wanted to bring in another topic and change it up. And what I love to do is talk to you guys about something that I talk with my girlfriends on. And this is a conversation I've had over the years, with my girlfriends, the topic of loving your home, how do you feel about your home? Do you wish it were different? I recently was looking through some old notebooks I haven't I came across a couple lists I had made about what I love about my home. And what I don't love about my home,