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What exactly are control dramas—and why do they have such a tight grip on our relationships and behavior?

In this week’s episode, we dive into the unconscious tactics we use to get our emotional needs met: manipulation, guilt-tripping, playing the victim, intimidation, or emotional withdrawal. Known as control dramas, these patterns often begin in childhood and are rooted in deep-seated fears of rejection, abandonment, or powerlessness.

Together, we’ll explore:

• The 4 major control dramas, inspired by the work of Dr. Caroline Myss
• Why we unconsciously fall into these patterns—and how they protect us
• How control dramas impact intimacy, trust, and emotional safety in our relationships
• Practical strategies for self-awareness, vulnerability, and boundary-setting
• Healing resources from Nedra Glover Tawwab, Brené Brown, and Cloud & Townsend

✨ Whether you’ve been on the receiving end of a control drama—or you’ve unknowingly used one to cope—this episode offers insight and tools for healing, growth, and cultivating relationships rooted in truth, not control.

📚 Mentioned in this episode:

• Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can by Dr. Caroline Myss
• Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab
• The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown
• Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
• The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins
• Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown

🎧 Listen to Episode #17 for a deeper dive into boundary-setting.
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Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional mental health care. Please reach out to a qualified therapist or counselor for support.