Tony discusses Amy Morin, LCSW's article "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do." https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201501/13-things-mentally-strong-people-dont-do

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[00:00:22] Hey everybody, welcome to Episode 326 of the Virtual Couch. I am your host, Tony Overbay. I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, a certified mindful habit coach, writer, speaker, husband, father of four and creator of The Path Back and online pornography recovery program that is helping people reclaim their lives from turning to unhealthy coping mechanisms like pornography. So if you want more information, go to pathbackrecovery.com. And I'm excited. I'm excited as always. On recording days, it is exciting to record a podcast. It's mind blowing to think that we're on Episode 326 of the virtual couch and add another 30 to 40 episodes of waking up the narcissism and just love. I love recording. I love spreading the good news of mental health, if that makes sense. So let's get to today's topic. 13 Things that Mentally Strong People Don't Do. And this is from an author named Amy Marin, and she is the author of the book 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do. And I've talked about her on previous episodes. I've done a couple of episodes, I think based off of some of her other articles. I really enjoy the things that she is putting out. And if I take you on my train of thought of how I got to today's topic, the there's been a steady pattern over the last few episodes. Yeah, I did one on Doomscrolling. That was because there was a lot of heavy things that were in the news.

[00:01:36] And then I talked about emotional validation, emotional invalidation, and where I just noticed when people ask me what I see as a therapist out in the wild, out in the world, or even in my office, it's so often people telling other people what they think or what they are supposed to think or feel or do. Instead of looking at relationships with absolute curiosity of understanding that I only know my experience. So let me find out about your experience. Tell me more about that. And then last week I talked about what to do with emotions and the fact that we even as kids, even in the very best of homes, that we're taught to avoid emotion, that if we're told on a pretty regular basis, hey, it's not a big deal or don't worry about it or get over it, or they didn't mean it, that it's natural for us to not know what to do with our emotions. And so when we keep those emotions buried, then those emotions can come out big. They can come out as anger, they can come out as extreme sadness. And then people try to hide those emotions. They try to stuff those emotions. And a lot of times that is one of the things that drives people to unhealthy coping mechanisms because they feel like they just don't know what else to do. And I have really resonated with that as I continue to process some trauma of an accident with one of my kids, my daughter, and just realizing that there are still really good tools out there, tools of absolute radical acceptance and tools of sitting with my emotions and mindfulness and the concepts around inviting m...