This episode is a conversation on why you’re not doomed by your past relationships, with my friend and Alchemical Divorce Coach & Transformational Guide Kimberly FiNix. It’s relevant to all sorts of relationships which have ended, from short flings to divorces.

I asked Kimberly to cover this topic with me because we’re both divorced, have lived this wisdom in our own lives, and both get all excited talking about shame. She is also the empress of guiding womxn through the end of a relationship and its aftermath.

You’ll hear us explain why we don’t like to call them “failed” relationships, even if the challenges associated with them were spectacular. We also share some of our own personal experiences.

We talk about:

. The pattern of ignoring and suppressing your own needs

. Having compassion instead of shaming yourself for what happened in your relationships

. Learning to trust yourself again to make solid choices

. Non-negotiables vs. normal compromises

. How understanding trauma patterns can help you have compassion for yourself or a partner

. How previous experiences with a partner could impact on your sense of worthiness

This conversation is full of permission and space to be imperfect, to not have it all figured out, to be learning through trial and error.

For context, we don’t talk in depth about abusive relationships. Some of our conversation is relevant, but it’s not my personal specialty, and there’s a lot more to be said about abuse which we haven’t covered here.

Kimberly FiNix is an Alchemical Divorce Coach & Transformational Guide for womxn. Her mission is to help womxn navigate the portals of divorce & relationship transition with strength, confidence, and a clear vision for their next stage of life. Kimberly's holistic approach combines modern coaching & mindset work with body-based practices and somatic trauma resolution techniques. Her work bridges the mind and body, resulting in transformation that's both healing and sustainable.

Kimberly's professional training spans the realms of embodiment work, somatic trauma resolution & integration, neuroscience & female sexuality. She brings the benefits of both formal training and the experiences of a long personal journey of healing mind, body, and spirit. Kimberly is a certified VITA Sex, Love, & Relationship Coach. Her studies include Tantric & Taoist techniques for emotional freedom and sexual healing with Layla Martin, she's a long-time mentee of EMPATH*ology founder Lola Pickett, and she's currently studying the ReBloom method of trauma resolution with Rachael Maddox.

Kimberly's offerings are designed to enable womxn experiencing divorce & relationship transition to use their connection with their own bodies as a source of wisdom, strength, and emotional resilience in times of transition. She provides one-on-one coaching to womxn who are ready to rise on their unique Phoenix Path.  Future offerings will include group courses and retreats.

Kimberly lives in Indonesia with her beloved partner & globe-trotting dog.

You can download Kimberly's free Worthiness meditation and learn more at her website: https://www.phoenix-path.com

Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/phoenixpath

Facebook Group: Navigating the Divorce Portal  https://www.facebook.com/groups/435199533995784/

To book a free Clarity Call with me, visit https://www.carolanne.com.au/work-with-me.