HOW TO LET GO OF THE NEED FOR APPROVAL. We have all been here. You got a promotion and share it with your social circle, only to be disappointed when several friends don't give you the reaction you expected. You post a cute selfie on Instagram and you constantly keep checking the amount of likes and comments. You're not alone and you're not the first! Today we're talking about why we seek approval from others - and how we can stop and look internally for validation.

[1:30] What Does Validation Mean? What is it and why do we seek it?

[2:10] Why Do We Seek Validation?

• Let's talk about Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs
• We are conditioned to seek validation from an early age
• Sharing childhood experiences

[10:30] Why We Need To Develop Boundaries

• Separationindividuation & autonomy
• Some people never break out of certain stages where we define our dependency with others

[14:30] Where We both Struggle With Self-Validation

• Nina's identity was in work and her romantic relationships
• Natassia's identity was in her looks and her career

[18:30] What worsens or makes us seek validation

• Social media. The "like" addiction.
• Media and advertising portraying societal norms and expectations.
• Setting expectations on others without them knowing. Why the expectation, what does it come from?

[24:40] Our Takeaways

• Taking time away from social
• Practicing self-validation: Celebrating your accomplishments
• Identifying areas and triggers of where your self validation rooted...where do you see yourself doing it the most?
• Strong in their faith and believe in a higher power
• Stop setting expectations for others (stop imposing those expectations)

We hope this episode helped bring to light where YOU might be seeking validation. Is it in your career? Is it in your appearance? We would love to hear your stories and your experiences. Remember, you are a badass and you don't need approval from anyone.

Resources: You can look up the books and studies referenced in today's episode:

• "Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life" by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

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Now get out there and celebrate your wins!!

Baklava,

Nat & Nina