Healing at the Root

15. How Childhood Survival Roles Shape Adult Relationships + Why Conflict Feels Unsafe


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  • Do you ever feel like you’re walking on eggshells in your relationships—terrified that one wrong move will lead to rejection, chaos, or disconnection? You’re not alone.


    In this episode, we explore how childhood survival roles—like eldest daughter syndrome, people-pleasing, and emotional caretaking—carry into our adult relationships.


    You’ll discover why many of us unconsciously choose partners we feel we need to “manage” or protect, and how nervous system survival patterns like fawning, hyper-vigilance, and conflict avoidance show up in love.


    What we cover in this episode:

    • Why conflict feels terrifying when love was tied to silence, self-abandonment, or performance in childhood

    • How people-pleasing, over-functioning, and caretaking impact intimacy and connection

    • The neuroscience behind why your body reacts to conflict like it’s life or death

    • Practical tools to build safety in expressing your needs without spiraling into fear or shame


    Whether you grew up as the eldest daughter, the family peacemaker, or the “responsible one,” this conversation will help you untangle old patterns so you can create relationships rooted in safety, honesty, and authentic connection.


    👉 Tune in if you’re ready to stop carrying more than your share and finally experience love without fear, anxiety, or over-functioning.


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    Healing at the RootBy DAIN Wellness