In this episode my partner Carlos de la Fuente and me, Natalie Reichel, we are sharing with you our processes when it came to having the first time sex with someone else while we are in our so called "Free Relationship".🕊️

How it affected everyone of us and how different we did react towards the trigger. We both see our relationship as a vehicle to learn and grow together but also everyone of us by its own. So instead of running away from what might shows up if "IT" happens, we are facing our fears and we are willing to see what shows up from the deepest within our shadow-worlds, when the partner goes intimate with someone else. Jealuosy, pain, fear of loosing or even panic in my case, anger and frustration, helplessness - all these feelings are showing us, where we still have to heal some self-worth and trust issues, coming from the earliest childhood experiences. Those issues and their deepest roots are indeed not easy to access - but with our Free Relationship we found a tool for reaching those deep wounds. ❤️‍🩹

Sure, it is not easy for both of us. You will might even hear the impact of the survival mode (which I have been going through the last couple of days) still in my voice in this episode. But being able to make the experience that your partner still loves you (maybe even more or in a deeper way) after he or she had sex with someone else, is defenitely worth it. It's priceless, really - and I am so grateful of what I am learning here through this alternative type of relationship. And how much I can heal myself through it.🙏🏽

May this episode shows you that it is totally OK if you're hurt and may act like you are not you anymore. That it is ok when triggers in your relationship (if it's monogamous or not, it doesn't matter...) bring out the darkest aspects of yourself and you turn into a wounded monster, just trying to survive. All that really matters is whether you and your partner can accept and accept the dark days of your relationship, HOW you deal with them and WHETHER you learn from them in the long term.💎

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