First time back in church in eight months, and the sermon made our blood boil. The pastor stated that while your spouse may be unlovable (like an old teddy-bear, dragged through the mud) their spouse's love can change them. Love changes people. No it does not! Boundaries change people! Loving submission to abuse just enables that abuse, and this is terrible advice to give to anybody. This sermon sparked a discussion about some of the boundaries that made us into a better couple, early in our marriage.