As algorithms are deployed across society to assess and predict behavior, older modes of control based on normativity are in eclipse. The way we experience control has changed accordingly — it registers more in terms of "vibes" and "cringe" — as have the ways it can be resisted, not through revaluing antinormative behavior but through extending care-oriented practices like mutual aid. Read more essays on living with technology at https://reallifemag.com and follow us on Twitter @_reallifemag.