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167 Unlocking Secrets to Love and Attachment with Bev Mitelman
Struggling to understand your relationship patterns? In this episode of the True Love Knots Podcast, relationship expert Bev Mitelman joins Maria to discuss how attachment styles,
shaped by early experiences, impact our adult relationships. Bev breaks down the differences between secure, anxious, and avoidant attachment styles, explaining how they influence dating and intimacy. She shares practical tips
for recognizing your own attachment style and offers advice for healthier, more fulfilling connections. If you're ready to break free from old patterns and build stronger relationships, tune in for insightful guidance on understanding yourself and your partner better.
Standout Quotes:
“There are many scenarios that can create a break in safety for a child, leading to the development of patterns we call insecure attachment. These patterns get imprinted into our subconscious mind and follow us into adulthood, resulting in
highly prescriptive behaviors.”
“Women have a strong propensity to emotionally bond with their sexual partner, especially if the sex is good.”
“Desire needs time to grow. Sometimes, we're so impatient that we don't allow these feelings to go through their natural cycles.”
“I have no issues with people living the way they want to. Where I get really aggravated is that we have now indoctrinated an entire generation of children and started to
medicalize them to change genders.”
"People who are anxious may weaponize sex, using it as a means to gain approval, reassurance, and closeness. Anxious individuals often desire closeness with their partner."
Key Takeaways:
Reflect on your own attachment style and consider how it impacts your current relationships. Are there patterns you recognize that could use attention or adjustment?
Communicate openly with partners about the meaning and expectations you associate with intimacy. Consider asking them, “What does sex mean to you?”
Take note of the differences in emotional bonding between genders and how they might affect your relationship dynamics.
If feeling anxious in a relationship, assess whether you use intimacy to seek reassurance. Consider healthier ways to nurture connection and security.
Explore attachment-related resources, such as quizzes or workshops, to deepen your understanding and improve relationship skills.
Episode Timeline:
[00:03] Introducing Bev Mitelman
[02:02] Bev’s Journey from Personal Growth to Relationship Coach
[01:54] Exploring the Roots of Attachment Trauma
[02:52] How Attachment Styles Shape Adult Relationships
[04:41] Understanding Gender Differences in Attachment
[07:42] Overcoming Challenges in Today’s Dating Scene
[16:34] How Generations View Therapy and Healing
[18:06] The Role of Social Media in Mental Health
[19:40] Discussing the Controversy Around Gender Identity
[22:48] Attachment Styles in LGBTQ+ Relationships Explained
[30:11] Final Thoughts
Learn more about Bev Mitelman on her socials:
Website: https://securelyloved.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bevmitelman/
Learn more about Maria Romano and True Love Knots at:
Website: https://trueloveknots.com
Email: [email protected]
Phone: +1 702-501-4150
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By Maria RomanoStruggling to understand your relationship patterns? In this episode of the True Love Knots Podcast, relationship expert Bev Mitelman joins Maria to discuss how attachment styles,
shaped by early experiences, impact our adult relationships. Bev breaks down the differences between secure, anxious, and avoidant attachment styles, explaining how they influence dating and intimacy. She shares practical tips
for recognizing your own attachment style and offers advice for healthier, more fulfilling connections. If you're ready to break free from old patterns and build stronger relationships, tune in for insightful guidance on understanding yourself and your partner better.
Standout Quotes:
“There are many scenarios that can create a break in safety for a child, leading to the development of patterns we call insecure attachment. These patterns get imprinted into our subconscious mind and follow us into adulthood, resulting in
highly prescriptive behaviors.”
“Women have a strong propensity to emotionally bond with their sexual partner, especially if the sex is good.”
“Desire needs time to grow. Sometimes, we're so impatient that we don't allow these feelings to go through their natural cycles.”
“I have no issues with people living the way they want to. Where I get really aggravated is that we have now indoctrinated an entire generation of children and started to
medicalize them to change genders.”
"People who are anxious may weaponize sex, using it as a means to gain approval, reassurance, and closeness. Anxious individuals often desire closeness with their partner."
Key Takeaways:
Reflect on your own attachment style and consider how it impacts your current relationships. Are there patterns you recognize that could use attention or adjustment?
Communicate openly with partners about the meaning and expectations you associate with intimacy. Consider asking them, “What does sex mean to you?”
Take note of the differences in emotional bonding between genders and how they might affect your relationship dynamics.
If feeling anxious in a relationship, assess whether you use intimacy to seek reassurance. Consider healthier ways to nurture connection and security.
Explore attachment-related resources, such as quizzes or workshops, to deepen your understanding and improve relationship skills.
Episode Timeline:
[00:03] Introducing Bev Mitelman
[02:02] Bev’s Journey from Personal Growth to Relationship Coach
[01:54] Exploring the Roots of Attachment Trauma
[02:52] How Attachment Styles Shape Adult Relationships
[04:41] Understanding Gender Differences in Attachment
[07:42] Overcoming Challenges in Today’s Dating Scene
[16:34] How Generations View Therapy and Healing
[18:06] The Role of Social Media in Mental Health
[19:40] Discussing the Controversy Around Gender Identity
[22:48] Attachment Styles in LGBTQ+ Relationships Explained
[30:11] Final Thoughts
Learn more about Bev Mitelman on her socials:
Website: https://securelyloved.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bevmitelman/
Learn more about Maria Romano and True Love Knots at:
Website: https://trueloveknots.com
Email: [email protected]
Phone: +1 702-501-4150