People want change, or they say they want change, but really they want to be told how to change – and then they want that process to be easy.

 

This reflects our skewed and unhealthy relationship with change; we want acute control over when and how change happens to us and in our lives and then, inevitably, we get frustrated because that’s just not how life works.

 

When we start looking at reality with the assumption that change is predictable and we can exert control over it, what we are really doing is creating the perfect storm of cognitive dissonance and discomfort. Today I want to explore this relationship, how it creates frustration in our loves – and, ultimately, how awareness of this relationship can put an end to that unproductive cycle.

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