I'm sure you have all heard of the term "Doormat". This is someone who allows and permits others to treat them badly to walk all over them. This person does not stand up for themselves and just goes along with the choices and abuses of people around them.

The doormat is actually a person who has double standards. A person who is dishonest, so you can have an opinion but I can't. Others can have preferences and wants but mine are obsolete. I need to watch my tone of voice but others can yell and shriek. The person who's being the doormat (and maybe that's you) is perpetuating a lie, the lie that someone needs to be the martyr in order for there to be order. Someone needs to take the blame, somebody needs to take the fall and somebody needs to take the higher road in order for everyone to get along. That is a lie.

The Truth is, if there is going to be an environment of mutual trust and respect, then every individual needs to be honest, every individual needs to show up responsible and humble. Nobody is shouldering the blame, no one is shouldering the abuse or covering for someone else, dropping empathy, compassion and awareness.

When the doormat finally stands up and begins taking responsibility and begins to expect others to also take responsibility. It may look like all of a sudden there is dust and dirt and a huge mess being made all over the floor. But the Truth is, that dust and dirt and mess has always been there, you (the doormat) were covering it up. The doormat is the ultimate controller. The doormat keeps everyone else's selfishness a secret. That's why people like using a doormat, that's why people like using you because you are so willing to hide their distortions.

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