LGBTQ+ dating often feels like navigating a smaller dating pool, and many gay men turn to dating apps for connection, dates, and hookups. But constant comparison on these platforms can lead gay men to believe there aren’t enough compatible partners, which impacts how we approach gay dating and our own self-worth.

In this episode, we’re exploring scarcity mindset in gay men, why it shows up so strongly in dating, and how we can break free from it to cultivate healthier, more grounded LGBTQ+ relationships.

Related Episodes:

• Listen to Episode 15. Understanding Attachment Styles
• Listen to Episode 53. Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Gays
• Listen to Episode 96. Should You Swipe Left on Gay Dating Apps?
• Listen to Episode 100. Best Little Boys in the World: It's Time to Grow Up
• Listen to Episode 146. The Velvet Rage

Additional Resources:

• Navigating Love with Attachment Styles: Building Healthier Relationships for Gay Men
• Breaking the Cycle of Comparison and Competition Among Gay Men
• Exploring Gay Dating Apps: Their Impact on LGBTQ+ Culture, Mental Health, and Relationships
• The Best Little Boy in the World Archetype: How Perfectionism and Societal Rejection Shape Gay Men’s Identities
• What Is Scarcity Mentality?
• Not Enough! The Scarcity Mindset in Dating
• Here's How A Scarcity Mindset Forms—And How To Overcome It
• Queer Men and Smartphone Dating Applications: Navigating Partner Markets and Managing Stigma
• Is Scarcity Mindset Sabotaging Your Dating Life? How to Reclaim Hope and Choice

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