The Art of Approach Podcast

#18 - Dalton Daniel on personal development through approaching and dating


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This episode we are joined by Dalton Daniel, a podcaster and good friend of ours. You can find 'Don't think. Breathe' on major podcasting platforms and on Instagram @donthink.breath.


In our conversation, we discuss approaching women in public, emphasizing understanding their interest and mindset. We cover the importance of genuine interest versus neediness, sharing insights from personal experiences to highlight respect and intention. We also stress appreciating every woman's beauty genuinely and approaching with authenticity.

We explore dealing with rejection, emphasizing genuineness, understanding rejection's impact, and resilience strategies. We highlight the role of positive mindset, support from friends or coaches, and the importance of detachment and mindfulness in facing rejection.

Furthermore, we talk about authentic self-expression, approaching interactions with kindness, and using voice messages for clearer communication. We stress facing the fear of rejection positively and the importance of embracing uniqueness.

We also touch on the challenges and insights from using dating apps, including dealing with ghosting and the cultural impacts of online dating. We underline the necessity of intentionality in dating and the value of relationships in enriching life, reminding listeners that there's no perfect time to start dating.



00:00 Introduction

02:03 The Problem with Neediness

06:58 The Fine Line Between Attraction and Neediness

10:56 Approaching Women in Public

20:35 Finding Beauty in Every Woman

21:49 The Whole Foods Story

22:35 Overcoming Rejection and Staying Positive

24:41 Preparing Mentally for Approaching

29:53 Visualizing Different Outcomes

33:08 The Value of Visualizing Every Outcome

34:18 Practicing Mindfulness in Emotionally Charged Moments

34:28 Being the Narrator of Your Life

35:17 Detaching Emotions from Thoughts

36:25 Taking Control of Your Own Stories

37:05 Breathing Out Emotions

38:23 The Importance of Support

39:21 Approaching Alone vs. in a Group

40:21 Reactions to Approaching

41:28 Not Caring What Others Think

42:37 You Are What You Love

44:14 Approaching Without Setting Yourself Up for Rejection

47:13 Claiming Your Identity as a Approacher

49:22 Overcoming Anxiety in Approaching

52:06 The Importance of Genuine Kindness in Approaching

54:00 Expressing Interest and Giving Compliments

55:14 Overcoming Insecurities and Fear of Rejection

56:11 Taking Ownership of Feelings

57:07 Imagining Success and Failure

57:51 The Power of Voice Messages58:08Experiences with Dating Apps

59:13 Using Dating Apps with Intention

01:00:22 The Downside of Dating Apps

01:02:10 The Benefits of Voice Messages

01:04:32 Mixed Experiences with Dating Apps

01:05:31 The Evolution of Dating Apps

01:07:18 Avoiding Overstimulation and Entertainment

01:08:19 The Impact of Porn and Instagram

01:11:28 The Impact of Limiting Consumption

01:12:28 Struggles of Being an Entrepreneur

01:13:13 Thinking Differently About Dating

01:14:25 The Feeling of Nothing to Lose

01:15:31 The Importance of Women in Our Lives

01:17:58 Recognizing Insecurities and Making Excuses

01:18:34 Owning Your Circumstances

01:19:09 Withholding Insecurities and Expressing Self-Awareness

01:20:09 The Impact of Insecurity on Dating

01:21:06 Building a Relationship with Yourself

01:22:34 Recognizing and Addressing Validation Seeking Behavior

01:23:35 Being Your Own Advertising

01:23:53 Finding Purpose and Value in Yourself

01:24:52 Closing Remarks


Where to find Dalton:

Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/59wfzg0oeASIhceU0FenXR

Instagram - @donthink.breathe

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