This Isn't Working

18: The Real Reason You Can't Get Close to Someone


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Last week, we talked about cutting away the parts of yourself that perform and please to get approval. But what about the deeper layer—the self-judgment that keeps you hiding parts of yourself because you’ve decided they’re too ugly, too bad, too weird, too gross to be seen?


In this deeply vulnerable episode, Meg shares her journey from childhood body shame to secret binging, and the moment her partner said “No shit!” when he finally learned what she’d been hiding for years. This isn’t about becoming perfect—it’s about cutting away the belief that certain parts of your humanity are unacceptable and too shameful to be loved.


This episode explores the difference between cutting away the masks we wear for others and cutting away the shame that keeps us hiding from ourselves—and how real intimacy becomes possible when you become willing to be seen as exactly who you are.


 What You’ll Learn:

💥The difference between performing for others vs. hiding from yourself

💥 Why shame doesn’t protect you from rejection—it guarantees you’ll never be fully accepted

💥How self-judgment keeps you in a prison of your own making

💥The difference between courage (cutting away performance) and compassion (cutting away self-judgment)

💥What changes in relationships when you stop managing others’ perception of you

💥How to move from hiding your struggles to being witnessed in them

💥The difference between courage and compassion in relationships

💥How relationships transform when you stop managing perceptions



Ready to stop carrying the exhaustion of managing everyone’s perception of you—including your own? 

Click here to book a coffee chat and explore what’s possible when you let yourself be fully seen.



If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs to hear that all parts of them are worthy of love—even the parts they’ve been hiding.


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This Isn't WorkingBy Meghan Lamm