Throughout the past year, many of us have redefined what it means to “work hard” or “strive” in our own lives. The pandemic and the accompanying social distancing mandates have challenged us to work and live much differently than ever before. For many, this has meant striving more than ever to simultaneously be the perfect employee, parent, partner, or etc. Though striving can often be healthy, many times we engage in unhealthy striving that can leave us feeling exhausted and chronically burnt out. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael and Diana, co-author with Debbie of ACT Daily Journal, discuss healthy and unhealthy striving. They explain the neuroscience behind this behavior and provide some practical advice for noticing and changing unhealthy striving in your life. Reconnect with your values and take the first step toward healthy striving by listening to this episode right now!

Listen and Learn:

Why exploring healthy vs unhealthy components of striving is important to Yael and Diana 

How Diana and Yael started exploring the topic of striving

The signs and symptoms of unhealthy vs. healthy striving 

The neuroscience behind striving

Some examples of what healthy striving might look like in your life

Diana’s expert definition of effortless action and what it means to embody a balance of effort and surrender

Practical advice for moving from competition to collaboration

What the striving cycle looks like as a process in many different domains of life

How values clarification can help break your striving cycle and orient you towards healthier striving

A few red flags that might indicate unhealthy striving patterns (and some resources for when you notice them)

Engage in an experiential exercise with Diana and Yael, and start breaking your pattern of unhealthy striving today! 

Resources:

Check out Diana's blog posts for her wisdom on ACT, mindfulness, and much, much more 

Make sure to pick up Debbie and Diana’s book, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

Join Diana for her free Tuesday Teachings for a live, online talk, movement, and meditation practice led by the master herself

About Diana and Yael:

Dr. Diana Hill

Dr. Diana Hill specializes in evidence-based and compassion-focused approaches to living well. She helps her clients build a values-rich life and unpacks the science of ACT through the cutting-edge podcast Psychologists Off the Clock, online teachings, and her book ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, co-authored with Dr. Debbie Sorensen and coming in May 1, 2021!

Dr. Yael Schonbrun

Dr. Yael Schonbrun is a practicing clinical psychologist and a professor at Brown University. In her clinical practice and in her research, she brings effective treatments to those who are struggling with the transition to parenthood, with relationship problems, depression, anxiety, general unhappiness, substance use, and life stress.

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