This is one of the darkest times in David’s life. However, even when David failed, God made his grace known. Through the good man, Uriah, God showed the world that the Messiah would die for our sins.

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Unfortunately for David, this is the second most well-known incident in his life. Most of us remember how he killed the giant when he was a boy. And most of us remember that he committed adultery as a middle-aged man. Hopefully we have learned there is so much more to him than those two things, but there is no doubt that 2 Samuel chapter 11 records a very dark time in David’s spiritual life.

Since we’ve been going through the book sequentially, we can now set it in its context. Chapters eight and ten record a war started by the Ammonites. For perhaps a year, David’s army fought the Arameans and others who were allies of the Ammonites. Eventually, David himself led the armies that defeated those allies. After they were defeated, David sent his military commander, Joab, after the Ammonites themselves. Many preachers have made a big deal out of the fact that David didn’t personally go out with the army this time. However, I’m not convinced that his decision to stay at home was spiritually significant. He did not go out with them the year before this either, at least, not at first (2 Samuel 10:7 & 17). David was maybe around fifty years old at this point, and it would be natural for campaigns to start to get physically more demanding for him. Even more than that, as king of a growing nation, he certainly had responsibilities other than war. In any case, when the army went off to war, David stayed in Jerusalem.

In ancient Israel most buildings had flat roofs, and people used their rooftops the way modern people might use a deck, patio, porch or veranda. It was a place to relax, and enjoy, especially in the evening and at night. So it would have been quite normal for David to be out on his roof, relaxing, in the late afternoon and evening. One evening, walking on the roof of the palace, David observed a beautiful woman bathing in a nearby dwelling.

3 So David sent someone to inquire about her, and he reported, “This is Bathsheba, daughter of Eliam and wife of Uriah the Hittite.”

Bathsheba’s identity is interesting. She was the wife of Uriah the Hittite. Uriah was one of David’s “thirty mighty men,” among the most famous and honorable warriors in Israel, part of the faithful band that fought alongside David and did great deeds. “The thirty” (there were actually 31) are listed in 2 Samuel 23 and again in 1 Chronicles 11. Bathsheba was also the daughter of Eliam. That name appears elsewhere only as another one of the thirty. Not all of them survived as long as David, and it seems that perhaps not all of them had been with David since his days in hiding – some might have become part of “the thirty” later on. So the picture we get is that Bathsheba was the daughter of one of David’s elite warriors, probably one of those who was with him from the very beginning. When she grew up, she married Uriah, another one of that elite band, a younger man, who likely joined the thirty later on. Bathsheba might have met David when she was a child, but if so, there’s a good possibility that he had not seen her since she grew up and got married. In any case, her family life had been bound up with David as long as she could remember. It is also likely that Bathsheba was quite young. She was married, and obviously had the ability to get pregnant, but so far she did not have any children. From this we can guess that she had not been married very long. These factors suggest that she was possibly less than twenty years old.

When David found out who she was, he sent for her. In his own mind, he may have fooled himself into thinking he only wanted to greet her and remember her father with her – we don’t really know. But when she came to the palace, they had sex.

It’s hard to know what part Bathsheba played in all this. There are some scholars who believe that this was basically rape: He sent for her, and she came and was forced to do his bidding. Certainly, it would have been very hard for her to say no. In those days it was a pretty big deal to defy your king. In addition, given her identity, David would have been the bright star in her sky all of her life – both the life of her father and her husband had been intimately bound to him. So, she may have been a little awestruck, and very flattered, also making it hard to say no. There is no doubt that David was the initiator of the sin. It would not have happened without him pursuing it.

On the other hand, it’s hard to imagine a woman bathing naked (as she almost certainly was) without checking all angles to make sure no one could see her. In fact, it is certain that David often walked on the roof of his palace, and just as certain that Bathsheba must have seen him from her own house on other occasions. She surely knew that he would be able to see her from his roof. Also, the evening was the most likely time for him to be there. So I’m convinced that Bathsheba deliberately bathed in full view of her king. I am not implying that this makes the whole incident her own fault, far from it. But I don’t think she was coerced. I think she also actively participated in this sin.

Also, there is no record of her protesting. Knowing David, if Bathsheba had reminded him of the right thing to do, as Abigail once had (1 Samuel 25:26-31), it is likely that David would have repented of his intentions and praised her righteousness, as he did in the case of Abigail (1 Samuel 25:32-34). We also know that none of the Old Testament writers, including the one who wrote 2 Samuel, were shy about calling rape what it was (cf. 2 Samuel 13:14). However, that is not what they called this. My conclusion is that they both sinned deliberately, but that David was the one who really made it happen.

Now, David compounded the sexual sin with several others, and I will talk about those things. But I don’t want to gloss over the first sin here. One of the reasons the church is now on the ropes in our culture is that decades ago, we quit publicly emphasizing that sex was made for marriage, and marriage alone. Adultery is a sin. Sex between unmarried people is also a sin, according to the bible. The New Testament calls these things “porneia.” Old English translations write it “fornication” and newer ones call it “sexual immorality.” In some ways “sexual immorality” is a better translation, because the word really means “any sexual activity that is not between a man and the woman he is married to.”

So sexual immorality (porneia) includes lust, sex before marriage, adultery, homosexual sex and all shades of those things. Jesus said it was evil in Mark 7:21-23.  Some of the other verses that condemn sexual immorality as sinful are: Romans 13:3, 1 Corinthians 6:9-18; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:5. There are many, many more. You have heard it here, if nowhere else: the bible teaches that  God created sex, and that it is good. Also, and very important, it was created for marriage, and any kind of sex outside of marriage is sinful. You may disagree with that idea, but that is what the Bible actually says, all over the place. Sex in marriage is good. Sex outside of marriage, in any form, is sinful. So don’t listen to anyone who says David’s main sin was lying, covering up and then the murder. Those were sins too. But the first sin, just as bad as all the rest, was sex with someone he was not married to.

I know it’s hard for people to go against our culture. But very rarely will you talk to an older person who says, “I wish I had had more casual sex when I was young.” Or, “it’s been really beneficial to my marriage that I had sex with lots of people before I met my wife.” When we reject God’s plan for sexuality, the result is brokenness and pain.

You may have noticed that verse 4 says that Bathsheba had been “purifying herself from her uncleanness.” Leviticus 15:19-28 instructs women to bathe seven days after the ending of their menstrual period. Though they may not have realized it, the timing of this would have been near the time of ovulation, the period when women were most likely to get pregnant. And so it happened in this case. Bathsheba soon sent David word that she was pregnant.

Because Bathsheba had gone through her menstrual period while her husband was off at war, there could be no doubt that the baby was from adultery.

Once Bathsheba became pregnant it wasn’t only a problem of sinning against God and Bathsheba’s husband. It was complicated now by the fact that other people were going to find out about it. I think David’s attitude when he found out about the pregnancy is very revealing. It is utterly unlike David for most of his life, but in this case, he was far more concerned about what others would think than he was about what God thought. God already knew about the sin, but David didn’t seem worried until he realized that others would find out.

Now, there was something very serious about others finding out. The penalty for adultery in ancient Israel was supposed to be death. Both David and Bathsheba were supposed to be stoned to death, according to the laws of Moses. (Deuteronomy 22:22). So in David’s mind, their own lives were at stake.

Everything that happened after Bathsheba got pregnant was the result of David trying to handle the situation himself, with his own resources. The biggest problem is that he tried to correct the situation without admitting his guilt or seeking forgiveness.

David brought Uriah home to be with his wife, so everyone would think the baby was legitimate. It is an almost childish effort to make things right. You can picture David thinking (but not saying) “I slept with your wife. But it should have been you, so now you do it.” But unfortunately for everyone, Uriah had apparently taken vows that were common for elite soldiers in those days. Such warriors sometimes pledged to not sleep with their wives until the war was won, and the whole army was home again. This cut back on desertions (because they’d be breaking a vow if they went home and resumed normal relations with their wives), motivated soldiers to fight, and contributed to a sense of camaraderie. Uriah was a man of great integrity, committed to keeping his vows. David even enticed him into getting drunk (thus causing him to sin in that way); but even in his drunken state, he would not go home and break his vow by being with his wife.

Notice the difference between David and Uriah here. Uriah knew that if he went home and saw his wife, he would be very likely to give in to temptation and break his vow of celibacy during war. So he didn’t even go there. David, on the other hand, in a premeditated act, brought the woman into his home. Temptation is easiest to resist on the very front end. If you take a spoonful of ice-cream, it is much harder to resist having a big bowl. It’s easier to refrain if you don’t even taste it.

So David’s first plan didn’t work. Instead of confessing and repenting, he kept trying to fix it on his own. No doubt, certain thoughts had probably crossed his mind. If only Uriah were killed in battle, then I could marry Bathsheba and the baby would be legitimate. He is a soldier, after all. These things do happen. From that sort of thinking, it isn’t such a stretch to move to actually giving some orders to make that more likely. It was a cruel irony that David trusted Uriah himself to carry the orders for his own death to Joab, David’s nephew, and the commander of the army.

It is uncertain how much Joab knew. He knew Uriah had been recalled to Jerusalem. So when he got the orders, he probably assumed that Uriah had displeased David in some way, but that David preferred him to die in battle, rather than to dishonor one of the thirty through public execution. Afterwards, of course, Joab must have figured out what happened. But in this way David tricked Joab into being an accomplice in murder. Joab did as David asked, and put Uriah in a difficult place in the battle, where he was killed. Unfortunately, Uriah didn’t die alone, and other soldiers died alongside him, unnecessarily.

So David committed adultery, got Uriah to sin by becoming drunk, got Joab to sin as an accomplice to murder, and then got Uriah and several others killed to cover it all up. As the final verse of the chapter says:

However, the LORD considered what David had done to be evil. (2 Samuel 11:27)

So, what does all this mean for us today?

One thing, as I have said, is that it is a reminder of God’s standard for sexual morality. It doesn’t matter what the culture says. Sex was made by God, to be celebrated in marriage between one man and one woman. Anything other than that is sin. Period. That really is what the bible says. If you doubt me, look up the verses I referenced earlier, or email me or comment, and I’ll show you even more. As Christians, we need to hold to that standard. When we look at the world around us, so much of the pain and hurt and hopelessness comes from the fact that people have ignored the Bible’s teaching in this area. It leads to divorce, broken families, fatherless children, people unable to maintain normal healthy relationships, and many more tragic results. There is forgiveness in Jesus for everyone. But God’s commands about sexuality are to protect us from harm, and it’s best to avoid being a cause of that harm.

Something else we might get out of this is a strategy for dealing with temptation. David first looked. Then he investigated. Then he brought Bathsheba closer, and then he sinned. If, as soon as he saw her, he had turned away, perhaps spent some time with one of his many wives, he probably would not have done all the evil that he did. It is easier to resist temptation at the very beginning. Don’t even play with the idea of doing something you know is wrong – it will burn you.

There is another thing I noticed here. It is interesting to realize when this happens. It isn’t when David is afraid for his life. It isn’t when people are betraying him, or when after twenty years, he finds himself back in a cave again. No, David’s failure was during a time of prosperity and security. We almost always look on struggle as bad and lack of struggle as good. Don’t get me wrong. I’m the same way. I like it when everything is going my way without a bump in the road. But the truth is, times of prosperity and security can be the most dangerous spiritual times of all. Jospeh Excell, a bible commentator of the nineteenth century, said it like this:

“The likelihood is that the great prosperity that was now flowing in upon David in every direction had had an unfavourable effect upon his soul.”

Sometimes, we think the goal is to get to a place where everything is smooth and there are no struggles. But maybe that’s like thinking how safe we would be if only we could get to the very edge of a cliff and sleep there. Physical prosperity and ease are not always good for the soul.

How about this: where is Jesus in this passage? In some ways, that isn’t quite a fair question, because the story is longer than just chapter 11. The whole passage goes on. But we can see Jesus quite clearly here too. However, this time, it isn’t in David. That’s important. David was not the Messiah. God often used him to show the world what the Messiah was like, but God was not dependent upon David alone. In this passage, he shows us Jesus through the good man, Uriah.

Uriah did not do anything wrong. In fact, it was both David and Bathsheba who wronged Uriah. By the law of Moses, they were supposed to die for the sin they committed against him. But instead, he died for them. He did no wrong, even when he was tempted. He was obedient and carried the orders for his own execution with him. When ordered by Joab, he went into battle, to his death, in order to save those who had sinned against him.

This is exactly what Jesus did for us. We have sinned against God (Romans 3:23). We deserve death and hell as the penalty for our sin (Romans 6:23). Jesus came to earth in obedience to the Father, carrying the orders for his own execution (Philippians 2:8). When he was tempted, he did no wrong (Hebrews 4:15). And yet Jesus died instead of us, so that we could live eternally (Romans 3:25; 1 Timothy 2:6; John 3:16).

Jesus is constantly calling to us, reminding us who he is, and how much he cares for us. Even in this awful story of betrayal and murder, Jesus is calling to us, saying “See how I love you! See what I was willing to do for you, even in the face of the worst evil you could conceive.” No evil can overcome that kind of grace and good. That grace is ours if we simply confess we need it, turn way from our sins, and receive it.