HOW YOU TALK TO YOURSELF MATTERS. We're going to discuss the relationship between our self-talk and how that can affect our self-love. Are you being as kind to yourself as you should?

[1:00] Want to hear Nina try to explain a scene from How to Lose A Guy in 10 Days and Natassia not know what the hell she's talking about? Here you go!

[2:48] We Become What We Think

• The way we think about ourselves colors everything
• The negative cloud that affects how you see others too
• Your mind is a battlefield

[6:55] Nina's Feeling Of Not Being Good Enough

• Constant thoughts of 'not being good enough' that started in high school and got stronger once starting her career in Engineering
• In relationships, feeling the need to give a lot of yourself up to prove that you are a good person

[10:59] Natassia's Fear of Failure

• Grew up with the thinking that you always need to be the best, and if you're not the best you're failing
• How a cycle of negative self-talk can affect your self-esteem (You're not pretty enough, you're not smart enough, etc.)

[13:00] Natassia Shares An Old Diary Entry

• How negative self-talk ends up affecting how you see yourself.
• Speak kindly to yourself guys… we shed a few tears going through this one

[17:58] Negative Self-Talk and Your Relationships

• When we feed ourselves negative thoughts, we think others see us how we see ourselves
• How negativity can affect your relationships and trust
• Speak kindly to yourself… would you talk to your friends the way you talk to yourself?

[20:24] Negative Self-Talk and Your Career

• Successful people still have negative thoughts, the difference is they ignore them and let them go.
• Those 'what if' thoughts… what's the worst that can happen?

[28:50] Tips to Overcome Those Negative Nancys

• Pay attention to how you speak to yourself & how others speak about themselves
• Acknowledge the negative thoughts and THROW IT IN THE GARBAGE.
• Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts and visualize them
• Positive affirmations for the win
• Beat negative thoughts with rationality

Books mentioned: Building Your Empire by Elena Cardone (if you can't tell, Nina's obsessed). Not a book, but Nina also really likes How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days, so go watch that too if you want.

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