HOW MEN HEAL | The Five Gates of Grief | Episode 20⏱️ 40 MINUTES | Because some stories can't be rushed.You're not broken. You're becoming.Most men are walking around with unprocessed grief, father-wounds, and relational trauma they've never been given permission to feel, let alone heal. We've been taught to push through, to be strong, to move on. But you can't heal what you won't feel. And what you don't transform, you will transmit.This isn't a quick listen. It's 40 minutes of the hardest stories I've told and the framework that's guiding men toward wholeness. Grab your coffee. Turn off your phone. This one requires presence.In this episode, I walk you through Francis Weller's Five Gates of Grief framework and share deeply personal stories from my own healing journey, some I've not spoken in a while.🔥 THE FIVE GATES:- Gate 1: Everything We Love, We Will Lose (2010 medical tragedy)- Gate 2: The Places That Have Not Known Love (Father-wound + Super Bowl redemption)- Gate 3: The Sorrows of the World (Church hurt)- Gate 4: What We Expected But Did Not Receive (The cave you fear)- Gate 5: Ancestral Grief (Breaking cycles)🎯 KEY INSIGHTS:→ Healing doesn't happen in isolation, you need witness→ Grief without words gets stuck in your body→ The father-wound shapes everything: how you lead, love, and see yourself→ Where the serpent has bitten you, Christ gives you authority to heal others→ "You're not broken. You're becoming."🧰 WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:- The complete Five Gates framework with personal stories at each threshold- How to give your grief language- Why nervous system regulation matters for healing- A guided IFS practice to witness your own pain with compassion- How to invite Christ into places you've been carrying alone⏱️ WHY 40 MINUTES?Because some frameworks can't be condensed. Because some stories can't be rushed. Because real healing requires space to breathe.This isn't background listening. This is work. Sacred work. If you're tired of surface-level content and ready for depth, this episode is for you.---📚 RESOURCES MENTIONED:- Francis Weller - The Five Gates of Grief- Internal Family Systems (IFS)- Curt Thompson - "We all come into the world looking for someone looking for us"- David Whyte - "Grief is love with nowhere to go"- LK10 Community - Rhythms of connection---🔗 Stay Connected to The HeartsmithMen don't do this work alone. Connect with the forge wherever you build your resolve:🎧 The Heartsmith PodcastListen & subscribe:Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jason-twomblyApple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-heartsmith-podcast/id1716208571📝 The Heartsmith CoachWeekly insights & practices: Substack: https://substack.com/@jasontwombly▶️ YouTubeWatch episodes & behind-the-scenes: https://www.youtube.com/@theheartsmithpodcast/podcasts💪 Men's CoachingReady for the deeper work? Coaching: https://www.jasontwombly.com🎙️ ABOUT THE HEARTSMITH PODCAST:Where men come to forge courage, train for emotional mastery, and live from both a clear mind and wild heart. Hosted by Jason Twombly - coach, trainer, and guide for men seeking emotional strength, relational maturity, and authentic masculinity.We don't do shallow here. Every episode is crafted for men ready to do deep work.---💬 SHARE THIS EPISODE:40 minutes is a commitment. If this episode met you in your grief, would you share it with another man who needs permission to heal? We don't do this work alone.---⭐ NEXT EPISODE: "Strong Back, Soft Front, Clear Eyes" - How to hold boundaries and compassion at the same time (featuring Roy Kent from Ted Lasso!)---Subscribe so you never miss an episode of The Heartsmith Podcast.⏱️ 40 minutes of transformation awaits.Shape the heart. Forge the man.