IT'S TIME TO START HEALING. Are you ready for some crying? Because we definitely are! We recorded this episode at an interesting time, where both of us were having breakthroughs about past traumas and events from our pasts. This is not an episode where we're going to give you a lot of takeaways… we just want to chat. And we want you to know that we've been haunted by our pasts too. We'll share our experiences and why WE decided to let go and forgive ourselves.

[2:20] Letting Go In Order To Move Forward. Your future is a blank slate. "No matter what path has been, your future is spotless, you can create yourself a new starting right now" - Darren Hardy

[4:19] Punishing Ourselves. Why punish ourselves for something that happened already and we can't change? We discuss why staying stuck in our past mistakes can impede us from moving forward.

• Robbing ourselves of the present
• Stopping ourselves from doing things that are natural to us
• Holding onto things doesn't make us better

[10:00] The Stigma Around Feelings. You can't be happy all the time and that's ok. Film recommendation: Inside Out from Disney.

[11:48] Mistakes Teach Us, But You Need To Actually LEARN. Don't just run away or avoid it from happening again. What did you learn from that experience? What can you do next time? Why is it still affecting you? Sit. With. It. We feel like we need to avoid painful things.

[14:18] Rehashing These Mistakes. We keep our past alive when we're constantly repeating in our minds or to others - reliving our trauma and disappointments.

[16:45] You Need To Forgive Yourself. That is the first part of letting go. Well, "What if I hurt or disappointed someone in the past?" You still need to move on. Not everyone will forgive you, but you can express that "apology" through your actions and improving yourself.

[18:00] Natassia's Journey Of Letting Go. Natassia shares her shame of her past depression and hiding it away from everyone, including herself.

• She overcame her depression and then locked it away and pretended it never happened.
• Now that she's finally opening up about it, she finally feels like she's healing and making peace with what happened.
• The realization that she was ashamed of her past and for feeling depressed.
• Forgiving her past self for being depressed and instead being proud of taking the steps to find happiness again

[27:00] Nina's Journey Of Letting Go. Nina is starting to heal from trauma from her past relationships.

• She talks about how she gave her all in past relationships in order to feel loved and wanted.
• The realization that her being open and telling people about her experiences was actually NOT her healing, but a way for her to get attention and validation.
• Discovering that she needs to WRITE and process her feelings instead of telling people about them.
• Forgiving herself for giving so much of herself away and losing herself.

[34:40] The Feeling That We're Broken. We both felt like we were broken or that we harbored a darkness within us. We share a few quotes from our new favorite book, "Untamed" by Glennon Doyle.

• We talk about ourselves like we're BROKEN.
• Life is not supposed to be EASY.
• "I am haunted by nothing." - Glennon Doyle
• "She lets the rest burn." - Glennon Doyle

You are not broken. You are not irreparable. You NEED to forgive yourself and move on from your best.

[42:00] Closing Out - We're On This Journey Together. You need to feel all the things… the good, the bad, the ugly. What we are learning together on this journey is that we have to let it go and forgive ourselves in order to move forward.

Resources: Books and articles referenced:

• "Untamed" by Glennon Doyle.
• We shared a quote by Darren Hardy. Go check him out if you want to learn more about changing your mindset!

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Nat & Nina