Unprotected Sex 01 Jan 2003 07:08:27 -0500 To: Carole From: Howard Baskin Subject: Good thoughts Thanks Carole, The unfiltered openness that you consistently show in your conversation is something I really enjoy and value. The bar comment did sort of turn my head for a moment, but I didn't think any more about it. The issue of unprotected other sex is something I've wanted to bring up but was not sure how. You operate at such a high level of integrity that I've accepted your initial comment of being "certified" disease free and have assumed you would act with concern for my health. But, frankly, I'm glad to have that understanding be explicit. Given your history, I'm not sure how you can believe commitments any man makes to you in return on these matters, but all I can do is assure you I would honor it as well. I suspect in my case it will not even come up, but that is a whole different discussion we do not need to have right now. I would like you to feel free to do whatever is right for you. Re the guidance, it was a little experiment based on something I had experienced once. But more generally, I would like to continue to learn what you enjoy and am happy to provide feedback as well. And while I don't have any particularly kinky inclinations, if at any time any suggestion were uncomfortable for you in any way I would want you to voice that rather than feel you were obligated. Meanwhile, it was really wonderful of you to focus on my pleasure despite the limitations on your own. Very rare. I think all of this is just part of the fun journey of getting to know each other over time. Thanks for the offer to stay. With the early breakfast and a long day of driving ahead, and not being used to sleeping with company, I felt that it was not the best time to possibly not sleep well. But I look forward to exercising the rain check. Happy New Year to you! Shall we plan something for Saturday night to kick it off? 01 Jan 2003 22:16:18 -0500 To: Carole From: Howard Baskin Subject: Re: Check out Dictionary Information: Definition Equanimous Looks like it is, indeed, a word. I think the sound of it as you say it, verbally or mentally, is very consistent with its meaning. Just has a peaceful ring to me. (Reading this 16 years later, it’s the only time I knew a word Howie didn’t) I've been writing my story since I was able to write, but when the media goes to share it, they only choose the parts that fit their idea of what will generate views. If I'm going to share my story, it should be the whole story. The titles are the dates things happened. If you have any interest in who I really am please start at the beginning of this playlist: http://savethecats.org/ I know there will be people who take things out of context and try to use them to validate their own misconception, but you have access to the whole story. My hope is that others will recognize themselves in my words and have the strength to do what is right for themselves and our shared planet. You can help feed the cats at no cost to you using Amazon Smile! Visit BigCatRescue.org/Amazon-smile You can see photos, videos and more, updated daily at BigCatRescue.org Check out our main channel at YouTube.com/BigCatRescue Music (if any) from Epidemic Sound (http://www.epidemicsound.com) This video is for entertainment purposes only and is my opinion.