#people-pleasers are generally agreeable, compliant, willing, accommodating, complacent, obliging, accepting, etc. You may have an idea of some additional personality traits or behaviors that contribute to your self-proclaimed label of people-pleasing. People often will be attracted to you because of your habit or system of self-sacrificing in the name of serving or pleasing others. We can easily find ourselves surrounded by #takers, #narcissists, #bullies, #dominant people or a number of other "types" that we may not want to be IN relationship with. 

In fact, sometimes those "types" are the very individuals who created the #people-pleasing tendency in us. If we aren't agreeable to their demands then we are "in trouble" or "criticized". People-pleasing becomes a HUGE part of our identity AND the way that our typical relationships function. 

Did you know that if you are a #people-pleaser you are also likely suffering. You're feeling angry, resentful, frustrated, self-conscious, over-sympathetic or over-responsible. Unfortunately, pleasing others rarely actually serves us to the extent in which our needs are actually met. This can leave us yearning for more, accepting breadcrumbs from others and incredibly depleted and deprived of the basic things that we "think" will bring us joy. Why do I say "think"?! Because oftentimes when there's a system of people-pleasing we aren't even aware of what needs we have or how to begin expressing them. 

 

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