On Purpose Christian Coaching for Women

21 - Quiet Confidence: How Emotionally Intelligent Women Lead Without Needing Recognition


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📌 Description

Recognition is tricky: some of us shrink from it, others chase it. In this episode, Jamie shows how to walk the middle path—humble, confident, and rooted in God—so you can accept appreciation without idolizing it, lead without performing, and model healthy acknowledgment for your team and daughters.

🎧 In This Episode
  • The invisible leader: when hard work goes unnoticed—and what God forms in the quiet
  • Scripture’s balance on credit & humility (Philippians 2, Matthew 6, Proverbs 27, 1 Peter 5)
  • Two unhelpful defaults: minimizing your contribution vs. craving validation
  • Psychology of recognition: dopamine, identity, and emotionally intelligent receiving
  • Practical tools to steward (not seek) credit—for yourself and the people you lead
  • A reflection liturgy to reset motives and model quiet confidence
  • đź’¬ Favorite Quote

    “God never asked you to dim your light to prove your humility—He asked you to reflect His.”

    ⏱️ Timestamps (15:31)

    00:00 – The tension between wanting credit and feeling guilty about it

    01:53 – Overlooked at work, the sting of invisibility, and a healthier view of recognition

    06:02 – Humility vs. performance (Phil 2:3–4; Matt 6:1–4; Prov 27:2; 1 Pet 5:6)

    08:06 – Minimizing vs. validation-seeking—and the middle path of quiet confidence

    09:38 – Why praise feels good (dopamine) and how to anchor identity in Christ

    11:23 –  Questions for motives, modeling recognition, leading your team well

    13:30 – God’s timing for honor; staying faithful to the Audience of One

    14:19 –  Coaching, team training, and next steps

    đź”— Links & Resources
    • Work with Jamie: Clarity & Calling Coaching — coachjamiemiller.com/coaching
    • Teams & Culture: Leadership Training & Workshops — coachjamiemiller.com/services
    • Join the free On Purpose Community — courses.coachjamiemiller.com/community
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      On Purpose Christian Coaching for WomenBy Coach Jamie Miller