Parenting often feels like we’re carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders. We focus more on the things we think we have to control, rather than the things that bring us joy. 

Today is a continuation of last week’s episode about coaching our kids instead of controlling them. Dr. Bill Stixrud is a neuropsychologist whose take on adolescent brain development could have a significant shift on how you show up and help to support your child. He discusses how the sense of autonomy—not full control, but some amount of knowing that what you do matters—can actually raise the feelings of motivation, and create resilience and hope in both us and our kids.

• Watch the full clip.
• How to Find What You Love, Love What You Do, and Do It for the Rest of Your Life, by Marcus Buckingham.
• The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control over Their Lives, by William Stixrud and Ned Johnson.
• Don’t forget to check out Our Favorite Things—A Resource Guide!

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