Studies have identified anger as being a secondary emotion. A secondary emotion is an emotion-fueled by other emotions.

For example, if you become hurt in some way, you might express ANGER instead of emotional and physical pain – it might be easier to express anger than express hurt.

When our kids become angry, we can often stay curious about that anger and figure out some other big feelings are in play.

For example, when something might feel unfair, a child may feel jealous, resentful, annoyed and ANGER will surface.

How do we respond:

1. Regulate Yourself

2. Go to the Feelings

3. Set a Boundary

4. Teach ways to express anger PROACTIVELY