January 12, 2026

218: Stop Beating Yourself Up Over The Things You've Done Wrong

10 minutes

Making a mistake can spiral quickly. One wrong decision, one awkward moment, one thing said the wrong way — and suddenly it’s all you can think about. You replay it, analyse it, avoid people, lose sleep, and punish yourself long after it’s over.

In this episode, Roula opens up about how deeply she’s struggled with beating herself up after mistakes, and a recent moment where she tried something new: firm, no-nonsense self-talk instead of days of rumination. Rosie shares her own experience of holding onto mistakes for years, and they talk honestly about why we do this to ourselves — even when it never actually helps.

This is a raw conversation about self-compassion, accountability, and learning how to let things go without pretending they didn’t matter.

What’s a mistake you’re still beating yourself up about, even though it’s already done?

TOPICS COVERED
• Why we ruminate after making mistakes
• The emotional toll of constant self-blame
• The difference between accountability and punishment
• How harsh self-talk can sometimes stop spiralling thoughts
• Letting go after arguments or uncomfortable moments
• Why replaying mistakes doesn’t make us better people
• Learning to move on without dismissing what happened

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