Conflict is around us, conflict is within us, and conflict can keep us from focusing on our dreams. There are several types of conflict, but what we are most familiar with is what we experience on a micro level, a terrible coworker, a bully at school, or shitty family members. But another form of conflict that we are greatly influenced by is on a macro level, global conflict, our culture of conflict, our consumption of charged content and the conflict within. 

On today's episode of the Forms and Focus Podcast (EPISODE #022), we are discussing focus and conflict. And what you can do TODAY to reverse the effects of conflict on the brain, increase your focus on long-term goals and accomplish your dreams. Let’s dig in… 

0:00 - Intro to conflict
1:02 - Podcast Intro
1:34 - Problem - Conflict is killing your focus.
11:40 - Solution/Habits for better focus.

STATISTICS

• ADULTS IN WORKPLACE: 
  • According to a study commissioned by CPP Inc., 85% of U.S. employees deal with conflict. (Hayes)
  • A 2007 Zogby survey reported that 37% of workers have been bullied at work. (Namie)
• STUDENTS IN SCHOOL: 
  • According to National Center for Educational Statistics:
  • 2019, 20.2% of students report being bullied.
  • 41% of students who reported being bullied at school indicated that they think the bullying would happen again.
  • The reasons for being bullied reported most often by students include physical appearance, race/ethnicity, gender, disability, religion, sexual orientation.
• PEOPLE ARE ANGRY: 
  • According to the latest NPR-IBM Watson Health poll of 3,004 people, 84% of people surveyed said Americans are angrier today compared with a generation ago. (Jonides and Nee)
  • “We’re living, in effect, in a big anger incubator,” said Raymond Novaco, a psychology professor at the University of California at Irvine. (Chang)
• CONFLICT IS MORE THAN THE PRESENT
  • Transference is a psychological phenomenon in which conversational or relational partners activate earlier memories. As a result, we may unconsciously repeat conflicts from the past that have nothing to do with the current relationship.

WHAT MODERN CONFLICT RESPONSE LOOKS LIKE:

• You are not in the wrong: Fight or Flight
• You are in the wrong: Justify or Pacify

SOLUTIONS

STEP ONE:

• Acknowledge Your Emotions
• Acknowledge Your Breath
• Acknowledge Your Body
• Acknowledge Your Value

STEP TWO: Say, “I need a minute.” Take a walk and change settings. Step 1 and 2 pulls you out of your amygdala and puts you back into your prefrontal cortex

STEP THREE: Now you can work through the conflict. Either personally or with the person that you are interacting with. 

SOLUTION FOR WHEN FACED WITH CULTURAL CONFLICT

• Reduce the consumption of charged content. 
• Get away from toxic relationships. 
• Practice mindfulness and meditate on the good. 

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