Real World Peaceful Parenting

228: Why “Calm Down” Doesn’t Work — And What to Say Instead


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Have you ever told your child to “calm down” only to watch their meltdown intensify? In this episode, Lisa shares why the phrase “calm down” often backfires—and what your kids really need instead. Learn how to replace shutdown phrases with words that build connection, safety, and emotional intelligence. Plus, discover simple scripts you can use in everyday moments to support your child through big feelings—without yelling or dismissing.


What You'll Learn:

  • Why “calm down” shuts connection down—and what your child hears instead
  • What’s happening in the brain during a meltdown (and why logic doesn’t land)
  • Five powerful phrases to say instead of “calm down”
  • How your calm presence helps your child’s brain come back online
  • How to make connection—not correction—your first move
  • A simple weekly practice to start replacing default reactions with peaceful responses
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Real World Peaceful ParentingBy Lisa Smith