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23: Attachment Is a Safety Strategy, Not a Personality Trait


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Attachment isn’t your personality.
It’s your nervous system’s learned strategy for staying safe in connection.

In this episode of (re)Parenting Radio, Lisa  breaks attachment out of labels like anxious and avoidant and reframes it as something far more accurate—and far more freeing.

If you’ve ever wondered why you can lead teams, handle pressure, and make big decisions…
yet feel completely undone in romantic or family relationships—this episode explains why.

It’s not inconsistency.

It’s context.

Lisa explores:

  • What attachment actually is “under the hood”
  • Why attachment patterns show up most in intimate relationships—not work or leadership
  • How early survival strategies get reactivated in adulthood
  • What emotional regression looks like in the body
  • Why attachment reactions aren’t flaws—but intelligent solutions from the past
  • How to recognize when a younger part of you has taken the wheel
  • How to restore adult leadership in the moment, without shame or self-blame

This episode also introduces a simple, practical way to work with attachment activation in real time—so you’re not trying to “fix the relationship” from a regressed state.

Because secure attachment isn’t something you are.
It’s something you build—through awareness, regulation, and repeated returns to adult leadership.

When you heal the relationship with yourself,
your relationships stop feeling like emergencies
and start becoming places you can breathe.

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