How many of us have struggled to set boundaries with others or in other areas of our life such as work or family? Ever feel guilty or that you are letting others down in doing so? We can certainly relate and know that we have ALL felt this way at one point or another. This episode we not only define different boundary types but also put to rest the many misconceptions regarding boundaries. Today, we challenge our listeners to reflect on what areas boundaries are needed. No need to fret because we are going to drop some knowledge bombs, experiences and hard truths that only came from our own mistakes that will help pave a path forward. Let's start drawing our lines in the sand y'all!!!

[1:58] Defining Boundaries. Nat describes boundaries as us telling other people how we want to be treated in all aspects of our lives.

[2:14] Boundary Types. Nat & Nina describe different types of boundaries which include physical, temporal and emotional. First to be discussed is physical boundaries which though this boundary may appear to be easiest to achieve, the context as well as relationship dynamics can make this boundary more challenging. Nat shares an experience where she has experienced this challenge herself.

[7:00] Cost of Time. How often do we freely give our time and how much is it actually left for ourselves? This is the main struggle attributed to boundaries dealing with time. Nina shares her own challenges with this particular boundary.

[8:26] Emotional Boundaries & Empaths. Nat & Nina deem this one to be the most challenging, especially for empaths or highly sensitive people who take on the emotions of others.

[12:54] Boundary Misconceptions. It is time to hash out the lies we are told about having boundaries which include that boundaries are selfish or indicative of us not caring for others. Additionally, Nat & Nina address how sometimes we feel that we are letting others down with the boundaries we place.

[16:03] Boundaries at Work. We have all been there...overflowing our plate with work responsibilities, working overtime, and feeling like there are not enough hours in the day. Nat & Nina discuss how boundaries in your work are not only important for you but also to those that report to you if you are in a leadership position.

[20:05] Relationship Boundaries. With the lovely play of personality dynamics, Nat & Nina emphasize the importance of communicated and agreed upon expectations that set these boundaries in all relationships including romantic and friendships. Nina & Nat touch on a few areas including:

• Intimacy in a romantic relationship
• Communicating Self-Care & "Me" Time
• Text Communication

[30:55] Drawing the Line with Family. This is especially challenging with the parent-child relationships with the misconception of respect to be had for our parents and vice versa.

[35:21] It is ALL Interconnected. Nat describes how boundaries in work, family, and relationships are all interconnected. If you do not put up a boundary for one area, it can potentially have negative implications in other areas of your life as well.

[38:35] THE Takeaway. What we fear most is not just the boundary itself but actually COMMUNICATING them and WHEN they are being VIOLATED. This is especially challenging with those we may have close relationships with.

[45:15] Silent Non-negotiables. Sometimes as women, we are fearful to also discuss our non-negotiables in relationships and this sometimes causes unintentional friction and resentment that could lead to larger challenges down the road. Nat & Nina especially dive into the area of dating.

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We say this with love: Put the damn boundary up!

Baklava,

Nat & Nina