Real World Peaceful Parenting

238: The Secret Sauce to Getting YOUR Kids to Cooperate


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In this episode, Lisa dives deep into the neuroscience behind how validation helps children feel truly seen and understood, ultimately leading to better cooperation and mental health. Lisa shares a personal story from her journey with her son, Malcolm, to illustrate the transformative power of validation, and why connection, not correction, is the true secret to building a healthy relationship with your child. Tune in to learn how to apply validation in your own parenting journey and create lasting, meaningful connections with your kids.


What You'll Learn:

  • The Neuroscience of Validation: How validating your child's emotions helps their brain regulate, making them more receptive to cooperation and problem-solving.
  • Why Connection Comes First: Understand why connection before correction is not permissiveness but rather a powerful neurological approach to guiding your child.
  • The Power of Pausing: Learn how pausing before reacting and validating your child’s feelings can de-escalate tense situations and lead to better outcomes.
  • Practical Validation Tools: Step-by-step instructions on how to validate your child’s feelings in real-life situations like homework meltdowns, curfew struggles, and more.
  • Validation Isn’t Agreement: Learn the difference between validation and agreement, and why you don’t need to agree with your child to help them feel understood.
  • How Validation Builds Long-Term Trust: Why validation helps children develop emotional intelligence, trust their caregivers, and feel safe to be vulnerable, even in difficult moments.
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Real World Peaceful ParentingBy Lisa Smith