“I’m busy.”

But… busy how? Overwhelmed? Coping? Struggling? Fine but stretched?

This episode starts with a simple question and quickly turns into a full-blown rant about one of Roula’s biggest communication pet peeves: using “I’m busy” as a default response when someone asks how you’re doing.

Roula explains why the phrase shuts conversations down, creates distance, and subtly suggests that one person’s time is more important than another’s. Rosie explores why so many of us fall back on it anyway, especially when we don’t actually want to open up or don’t think the other person really cares.

They unpack how “I’m busy” often replaces emotional honesty, how it shows up at work and in relationships, and why it can be a cry for help disguised as productivity. The conversation also touches on small talk, cultural habits, boundaries, and why we ask “how are you” when we don’t always want the real answer.

Roula also references communication expert Jefferson Fisher, whose take on busyness helped push this long-held irritation to the surface.

Topics covered:

• Why “I’m busy” isn’t a real answer
• How busyness shuts down connection
• What people often mean when they say they’re busy
• Emotional honesty vs social etiquette
• Busyness, boundaries and efficiency at work
• Small talk, cultural habits and fake check-ins
• Better ways to answer “how are you?”

When someone asks how you are, what do you usually say — and what would a more honest answer sound like?

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