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#24 Getting over fear of asking for help.
Hi Listeners,
One of the biggest fears I had, especially early in career, was asking for help.
Fear of looking stupid, wasting the other persons time, not knowing what to say etc etc. All this fear prevented me from reaching out & connecting with others, preventing me from getting needed information, prevented me from taking the needed step towards my goals.
It is completely NORMAL to have these fears:
1. Remember that when you allow fear to control your life, you hold yourself back from doing your great work and creating great results. If you are smart (I know you are), you realize being paralyzed by fear isn't efficient or effective. The better strategy is to ask for help, line up adequate resources, and get the work done.
2. You can't defeat an enemy you don't know. Write out what triggers your fear of and how it holds you back. Be honest with yourself. Honesty opens doors. It's a powerful tool.
3. Don't try to be anyone but yourself. That means you must first know who you are and own it. Create a list of tasks that you enjoy and are good at. Then, create another list of things you don't like doing. Let other people do those things you don't enjoy. You can't be perfect at everything. Remember, everyone possesses a unique ability. Discover what makes you unique and do more of it.
4. Oftentimes people overlook the resources and support they already have. Look around and create a list of all the support and resources in your life right now. Don't discount them simply because they are familiar to you.
5. Next, determine which resources you are missing, and what you can do to acquire them. If you hate making the phone call, see if a trusted advisor can make with you. If you are ready to make changes in your life and career, hire a coach.
It is humanly impossible to know everything and be perfect at everything. We all need a little help now and then. Instead of trying to be someone you can never truly be, why not practice being yourself?
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By Dave SmithHi Listeners,
One of the biggest fears I had, especially early in career, was asking for help.
Fear of looking stupid, wasting the other persons time, not knowing what to say etc etc. All this fear prevented me from reaching out & connecting with others, preventing me from getting needed information, prevented me from taking the needed step towards my goals.
It is completely NORMAL to have these fears:
1. Remember that when you allow fear to control your life, you hold yourself back from doing your great work and creating great results. If you are smart (I know you are), you realize being paralyzed by fear isn't efficient or effective. The better strategy is to ask for help, line up adequate resources, and get the work done.
2. You can't defeat an enemy you don't know. Write out what triggers your fear of and how it holds you back. Be honest with yourself. Honesty opens doors. It's a powerful tool.
3. Don't try to be anyone but yourself. That means you must first know who you are and own it. Create a list of tasks that you enjoy and are good at. Then, create another list of things you don't like doing. Let other people do those things you don't enjoy. You can't be perfect at everything. Remember, everyone possesses a unique ability. Discover what makes you unique and do more of it.
4. Oftentimes people overlook the resources and support they already have. Look around and create a list of all the support and resources in your life right now. Don't discount them simply because they are familiar to you.
5. Next, determine which resources you are missing, and what you can do to acquire them. If you hate making the phone call, see if a trusted advisor can make with you. If you are ready to make changes in your life and career, hire a coach.
It is humanly impossible to know everything and be perfect at everything. We all need a little help now and then. Instead of trying to be someone you can never truly be, why not practice being yourself?