ARE YOU REALLY SORRY ABOUT THAT? This is something we're definitely guilty of, because it's so ingrained in us that it's like we say "Sorry!" before we even realize what we're saying. Have you ever apologized for taking up space? Or in your work e-mails all the time? Or for feeling an emotion other than happiness? If so, then we're here with you and to tell you that this needs to stop! We're going to have a vent session because we have noticed it's so hard to kick this unless you become more self aware about it.

[1:45] Why We're Talking About This. We need to STOP over-apologizing about everything to everyone. We are running on autopilot and apologize even when it's not a situation that warrants an apology.

[5:00] Why Do We Apologize So Much? We discuss why we believe we tend to apologize so much to others… as well as how these reasons can actually negatively impact us.

• Women especially are taught to be overly polite and conscious of others feelings.
• Self-esteem and earning approval. We want to be seenas sympathetic.
• We don't want to be a burden on others.
• Our fear of conflict. You want to avoid an argument or conflict with others.

[11:40] What You Need To Stop Apologizing For. Let's talk about some things you need to stop apologizing for, as of TODAY. We're going to delve a little deeper to each one of these AND what you can say instead of apologizing for it:

• [12:14] Your feelings. Your feelings are absolutely valid and we don't need to apologize for feeling them.

• [13:27] Other people's feelings. We share an amazing excerpt from "Untamed" by Glennon Doyle that captures this perfectly.
• [17:00] Asking questions when you don't know the answer. Own the vulnerability to admit you don't know everything.
• [18:20] Not responding immediately. Are you really sorry for not answering that e-mail ASAP? Not everything is urgent.
• [21:35] Things outside of your control. Don't apologize for everyone's experiences or your own.
• When you say "NO."
• [25:57] Taking up someone's time. While it's ok to be polite, there are better ways to verbalize this instead of making it seem like we're a nuisance.
• [27:23] Disagreeing with someone...A.K.A. Conflict

[31:10] Our Ultimate Takeaway - Bring awareness and intention back to what a sincere apology for you may be. Pause and see whether the situation warrants a true apology or if it is necessary. Stop apologizing for taking up space.

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