March 14, 2018

240 -Addressing Co-Dependency and Addiction

55 minutes

Co-Dependency

Counseling CEU Course https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/product/id/492/c/

Objectives

~ Define codependency

~ Identify characteristics of the codependent relationship

Why I Care/How It Impacts Recovery

~ Co-dependency can serve as an alternate addiction or distraction

~ Co-Dependents may use relationships to try to deal with depression or anxiety

~ Ultimately codependency is self-defeating because one of the few things that cannot be controlled is the will of another person.

Definition

~ Codependency describes a type of relationship in which:

~ One partner defines his or her worth or goodness based on someone else

~ The codependent person often chooses relationships in which the other person needs to be rescued, thereby making himself or herself indispensable.

Warning Signs

~ Have an excessive and unhealthy tendency to rescue and take responsibility for other people.

~ Derive a sense of purpose and boost your self-esteem through extreme self-sacrifice to satisfy the needs of others.

~ Choose to enter and stay in lengthy high-cost caretaking and rescuing relationships, despite the costs to you or others.

~ Regularly try to engineer the change of troubled, addicted, or under-functioning people whose problems are far bigger than your abilities to fix them.

~ Seem to attract low-functioning people looking for someone to take care of them so they can avoid adult responsibility or consequences, or attract people in perpetual crisis unwilling to change their lives.

~ Have a pattern of engaging in well-intentioned but ultimately unproductive unhealthy helping behaviors, such as enabling.

Co-Dependency as an Addiction

~ Tolerance

~ Need more of the same substance/activity

~ In a codependent relationship, as time passes, the codependent’s identity becomes increasingly defined by the relationship with the other person

~ Withdrawal

~ Not getting the substance, being around the person results in physical or psychological withdrawals

~ When apart from or unable to control the other person, the codependent experiences extreme anxiety and/or depression

Co-Dependency as an Addiction

~ Spending more time thinking about, engaging in or recovering from the behavior

~ Co-dependents are always hypervigilant to other peoples behavior, and obsessing about what they are or are not doing

~ Co-dependents spend large amounts of time rescuing or covering up for the other person “fixing it”

~ The codependent gets exhausted taking care of the other person, but cannot stop because they rely on the other person to tell them

Co-Dependency as an Addiction

~ Foregoing other interests in order to maintain the addiction

~ The relationship is the “drug” of choice in the codependents’ lives

~ Having that person in their life makes them feel “okay” or “whole”

~ The relationship takes the place of self-love

Co-Dependency as an Addiction

~ Continuing the addiction/relationship despite negative consequences

~ Emotional (depression, anxiety, anger, resentment)

~ Social (Loss of other friends)

~ Physical (stress-related physical issues)

~ Occupational (poor job performance)

Addicts and Codependents

~ Low self esteem

~ Depression, anxiety

~ Need to control

~ Fear of abandonment

~ Relationship comforts/numbs

~ Relationship becomes the addict’s primary focus

~ Minimizing, denying, blaming to protect the relationship

~ Stinkin’ Thinkin’

~ Have difficulty identifying what they are feeling.

~ Lack empathy for the feelings and needs of others.

~ Mask pain in various ways such as anger, humor, or isolation.

~ Experience significant aggression/resentment and negativity

~ Have difficulty making decisions.

~ Judge

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March 14, 2018

240 -Addressing Co-Dependency and Addiction

55 minutes

Co-Dependency

Counseling CEU Course https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/product/id/492/c/

Objectives

~ Define codependency

~ Identify characteristics of the codependent relationship

Why I Care/How It Impacts Recovery

~ Co-dependency can serve as an alternate addiction or distraction

~ Co-Dependents may use relationships to try to deal with depression or anxiety

~ Ultimately codependency is self-defeating because one of the few things that cannot be controlled is the will of another person.

Definition

~ Codependency describes a type of relationship in which:

~ One partner defines his or her worth or goodness based on someone else

~ The codependent person often chooses relationships in which the other person needs to be rescued, thereby making himself or herself indispensable.

Warning Signs

~ Have an excessive and unhealthy tendency to rescue and take responsibility for other people.

~ Derive a sense of purpose and boost your self-esteem through extreme self-sacrifice to satisfy the needs of others.

~ Choose to enter and stay in lengthy high-cost caretaking and rescuing relationships, despite the costs to you or others.

~ Regularly try to engineer the change of troubled, addicted, or under-functioning people whose problems are far bigger than your abilities to fix them.

~ Have a pattern of engaging in well-intentioned but ultimately unproductive unhealthy helping behaviors, such as enabling.

Co-Dependency as an Addiction

~ Tolerance

~ Need more of the same substance/activity

~ In a codependent relationship, as time passes, the codependent’s identity becomes increasingly defined by the relationship with the other person

~ Withdrawal

~ Not getting the substance, being around the person results in physical or psychological withdrawals

~ When apart from or unable to control the other person, the codependent experiences extreme anxiety and/or depression

Co-Dependency as an Addiction

~ Spending more time thinking about, engaging in or recovering from the behavior

~ Co-dependents are always hypervigilant to other peoples behavior, and obsessing about what they are or are not doing

~ Co-dependents spend large amounts of time rescuing or covering up for the other person “fixing it”

~ The codependent gets exhausted taking care of the other person, but cannot stop because they rely on the other person to tell them

Co-Dependency as an Addiction

~ Foregoing other interests in order to maintain the addiction

~ The relationship is the “drug” of choice in the codependents’ lives

~ Having that person in their life makes them feel “okay” or “whole”

~ The relationship takes the place of self-love

Co-Dependency as an Addiction

~ Continuing the addiction/relationship despite negative consequences

~ Emotional (depression, anxiety, anger, resentment)

~ Social (Loss of other friends)

~ Physical (stress-related physical issues)

~ Occupational (poor job performance)

Addicts and Codependents

~ Low self esteem

~ Depression, anxiety

~ Need to control

~ Fear of abandonment

~ Relationship comforts/numbs

~ Relationship becomes the addict’s primary focus

~ Minimizing, denying, blaming to protect the relationship

~ Stinkin’ Thinkin’

~ Have difficulty identifying what they are feeling.

~ Lack empathy for the feelings and needs of others.

~ Mask pain in various ways such as anger, humor, or isolation.

~ Experience significant aggression/resentment and negativity

~ Have difficulty making decisions.

~ Judge

...more

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