Can objectifying others or even yourself ever be a good thing? Why psychologists believe a good dose of objectification is vital to happy sex life.

In this podversation:

• What is objectification and how does someone objectify themselves?
• Common examples of self-objectification
• Ways it has shown up in our (Tamara & Alex's) lives personally
• Without self-objectification we miss out on the fullness of life
• How to tell whether your objectification is healthy
• The power of psychological assessments like the Enneagram as a measurement of self-objectification and more
• How objectification and self-objectification plays a role in great sex
• Why partners should try to say YES to their lovers as often as possible
• Self-objectification in oral sex
• Lust as an integral part of the total Self
• Confidence is a decision
• How any behavior can be an act of affirmation or aggression (a.k.a healthy or unhealthy)

Additional Resources:

• The Enneagram ($12): https://tests.enneagraminstitute.com/orders/create
• My favorite Enneagram book that explains each type in depth along with issues in childhood, core fears & desires etc.
• “The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment” by Jack Morin
• “Consensual Sadomasochism: How to Talk About it & How to Do It Safely” by Dr. William Henkin and Sybil Holiday