In today’s episode, we dive deep into a sneaky and exhausting thinking trap: Personalization (Me-Blame) — the mental habit of believing everything going wrong is somehow your fault. Greg explores how this faulty thinking drains men of energy, inflates guilt, and wrecks intimacy.

Personalization = blaming yourself for things you didn’t cause.

Often rooted in early emotional conditioning and trauma.

Reinforces guilt, martyrdom, and unearned responsibility.

Creates distance in relationships by reacting to imagined blame.

Prevents emotional connection and trust in your partner’s autonomy.

Reality-check your thoughts: “Is this really about me?”

Ask gently instead of assuming: “You okay?”

Separate feelings from facts.

Say out loud: “That’s not mine to carry.”

Trust your partner’s emotions belong to her.

Shift from guilt to curiosity: “What’s going on for her?”

“You’re not a walking apology. You’re a human in progress — and not everything is about you.”

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