Real World Peaceful Parenting

251: Screen Time Boundaries That Stick


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Screen-time fights aren’t really about screens—they’re about leadership. In this episode, Lisa breaks down why device limits feel so hard (hello, underdeveloped prefrontal cortex and dopamine loops), how we accidentally train kids to ignore us, and what to do instead. You’ll learn a simple, repeatable framework to set clear limits, hold them without overexplaining, and stay regulated while your child has big feelings. If you can lead calmly around screens, you can lead calmly around anything.


What You'll Learn:

  • Why kids can’t self-regulate screens (brain development + persuasive design) and why that matters for your limits.
  • The leadership shift from proving you’re in charge to simply being in charge—firm and kind, not harsh or permissive.
  • The 5-step Screen-Time Framework: set in advance, state calmly (don’t ask), acknowledge and hold with “and,” stop talking and follow through, stay regulated.
  • The magic script that validates feelings while keeping the boundary: “I know you want to keep playing, and screen time is over now because time is up.”
  • What to expect when you get consistent (extinction bursts, testing) and how to keep your cool through the storm.
  • Two quick homework practices to change the pattern this week: a Boundary Audit and a one-boundary Practice Run.
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Real World Peaceful ParentingBy Lisa Smith